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Compare Emotional Intelligence, Extramarital Relations (treason) and Unstable Marriage in Women Want a Divorceand Normal Women
Mahdi Dehghan Harati 1, Ebrahim Shirvani* 2, Farzad Shanbedi3
1
(M.A of Family Counseling, Allameh Tabataba'i University, Iran) 2
(M.A of Family Counseling,Allameh Tabataba'i University, Iran) 3
(M.A of General Psychology, Allameh Tabataba'i University, Iran)
*Corresponding author: Ebrahim Shirvani
To cite this paper: Dehghan Harati, M. et al. (2017). Compare emotional intelligence, extramarital relations (treason) and unstable marriage in Women want a divorce and normal women. South journal of Educational Psychology and Counseling, 4, 1, 60-69.
Abstract:
The aim of this study was to compare emotional intelligence, meta-marital relationships and the instability of marriage in Women want a divorce and normal women. This descriptive study. The study design is causal-comparative. The study population consisted of women seeking divorce referred to Marvdasht city Family Court in the months of November and December of 2016 and the research sample consisted of 60 women and 60 healthy women who seeking divorce available sampling method was selected. Data collected by questionnaire on emotional intelligence, extramarital relations (attitudes to infidelity) and Atal Mark Edwards and Johnson were collected and marriage instability indices and multivariate analysis of variance (MANOVA) analyzed. Data analysis showed that emotional intelligence, extramarital relationships and marriage instability at divorce want a women and women in the general is different. The findings obtained based on the difference in emotional intelligence, extramarital relations and instability of marriage in divorce want a women and ordinary women, it can be concluded that these variables directly or indirectly in extreme or climbing divorce rate are effective in couples therapy and marriage counseling and marriage should be given to this issue.
Introduction
One of the human emotional needs build relationships with others, in this regard marriage as the most immediate communication between humans and as a closest relationship in response to physical and mental kidney introduced. On the other hand, the family is the first and most important factor in building character and behaviors of individuals and requires balance and physical and mental health is for optimal performance.
Among the family members, the couple is central to the role of the mental condition of an inevitable impact on the performance of small units. Conflicts and dissatisfaction of life and mental health exorbitant costs imposed on society and the family members. Growth rates of divorce and its psychological and social effects can be grown as evidence for the need to consider ways to improve marital satisfaction (Ghafuri, Mashhad, Hassan Abadi, 2013). Sometimes problems arise in family or between couples, resulting in impaired functions and roles of family members. The continuation of these problems and differences and a lack of effort in resolving disputes and conflicts they cause severe marital. (rezaZadeh, 2008). Although marriage by couples with the lowest complexity and highest joy is understandable, but the event continues to stress the capacity of the women's. Researchers and experts have emphasized that the quality of marriage, many implications about the role of parents, mental health, mental health - physical and job satisfaction as well (Myers, 2000).
The collapse of relations between spouses is the most common effects of severe conflict. Evidence suggests that about half of all marriages today ends in divorce. About 65% of women and 70% men after divorce and remarry probably about 50% of people who have married again, divorced again (Guttmann, 1998; quoted Yang and Long, 2007).
In recent years understanding the nature of emotion and its relationship with the emerging knowledge by introducing the concept of emotional intelligence has taken on a new dimension. So can this event be regarded as the latest advances in the realm of emotional and cognitive study (Meyer, 2008). Emotional intelligence is a concept first introduced by Oslo and Meyer then found by Goleman general aspects (barr, 1997). In terms of applications, excitement theorists believe that emotional intelligence and emotional perception abilities builder, set the emotional conditions applying emotional intelligence, psychological adjustment, success, forecasting and overall satisfaction with life is related to (Pyltry, 2002).
On the other hand, a satisfying marriage underlying suitable space for the exchange of positive emotions between couples is retaliation and Researchers such as (fitness) believe that emotional intelligence construct or at least some aspects of a marriage enrichment capacity coupled with compatibility and optimum satisfaction and have been stable. They believe that the ability to understand and accept the thoughts, feelings and emotions of others in married life more satisfied with their relatives (Fitness, 2001).
serious social harm us. In fact, the lack of accurate statistics in the country as being the problem and not a social problem, Social crisis of betrayal as something shocking for couples and families and is a common phenomenon for marriage and family therapists(Atkins, Bakvm and Jacobson, 2001).
The current statistics on infidelity are very different. According to one of the most prestigious in the field studies in America have shown that 21 percent of men and 11 percent of women in their lifetime are committed marital infidelity (Schneider, Bakvm and Gordon, 2007). Betrayal as one of the main reasons that couples have come to the max system family counseling(Amato, Ragrs, 1997). And 40 percent of people in America are divorced, have reported that in life Relations outside of marriage have been involved at least once (Janus and Janus, 1993).
Couple's marital infidelity can cause severe emotional trauma. According to reports, they had been betrayed spouses who often have feelings like anger, low self-esteem, overwhelm, depression and helplessness experience. Spouses trespasser with feelings such as shame, guilt, doubt, anger and despair grappling. Intense emotional turmoil after the disclosure of infidelity is often associated with cognitive disturbances. Any concealment of information wife out of wedlock is considered a form of disloyalty (khedmatkar, 2008).
One of the other problems associated with divorce and its prognosis, unstable or volatile marriage. Clearer definition of marriage instability can be said that the term refers to determining the orientation of a pair of dissolution. In terms of White and Levin (2009). It involves the instability of marriage in three modes that include: An emotional state (how I felt about my marriage), concerns the relationship (I thought about how I feel or what I think the feeling is there?) And certain actions (I really feel as a result of subsequent thoughts on what action I ?).
In another definition, the concept of an unstable marriage to divorce as couples tend to imply that it contains two modes: 1- case of cognitive (thinking about whether their marriage contract or thought to occur in a tough divorce).2- Behavioral state (the practical result is that individual feelings about divorce his wife does). In fact, the instability of marriage is that when one member of the couple or both members of the couple thinking about divorce or separation or actions that allow finishing marriage, tends (Halvg and Richter, 2010).
In general, the concept of marriage instability as a negative pole of a continuum that represents the continuity married there. If a stable marriage forces that each member of the couple is committed to being together, a volatile and unstable forces which each member of the couple to marry in order to divorce and separation of lead (Booth, 1983).
Due to the fact that divorce can be caused by several factors And it is thought that some of these factors extramarital relations (treason), emotional intelligence and marital instability can be involved in divorce,
In this study, researchers sought to examine and compare the three variables divorce women and ordinary womenTo thus determine whether or not these variables can be an important factor in divorce. In other words, the present study sought to answer this question: Is a significant difference between men and women divorce ordinary in terms of extra-marital relationship, emotional intelligence and marital instability there?
Research Method
methods that aim to describe the conditions or phenomena is investigated. One of the studies was descriptive, Post-event research (Sarmad, Bazargan and Hejazi, 2012). The plot of this research in the fields of descriptive research takes place. Thus, none of the variables are manipulated and measured just paid them and without manipulation.
The population and sample size
In this study population consisted of all women who seeking divorce (n = 100) and in November and December 2016 referred to the family court for divorce marvdasht city as well as other married women with women who had been divorced. The study sample consisted of women who were referred to family courts for divorce. groups of 60 people (ordinary divorce women and married women between the partners divorce women) and a total of 120 people were chosen within two months of data collection. Research Tools
Inventory meta-marital relationships: Attitude Scale betrayed by Mark & atly was produced in 2006 and has 12 words, each question in the whole Seven parts ratings. The scale in Iran Abdullah Zadeh has been translated by Cronbach's alpha of 383 married men and women who were randomly selected city and Aliabad . obtained 084 percent. Posts obtained for this sample is examined 15.39. (Abdullah Zadeh, 2010). Emotional intelligence questionnaire: By Schutte was built in 1998 and has 33 questions. 5-point Likert scale for grading the degree of false (1) to completely true (5) is used. Khosro Javid (2002), based on an endogenous alpha reliability of this scale 81.0 reported. The use of factor analysis with principal components analysis, three factors emotion regulation with Alpha 81.0, assessment and expressed excitement with alpha 67.0 and operation of excitement with Alpha 50.0 achieved. Moreover, all the three subscales of emotional intelligence has a correlation coefficient equal to 80.0, 74.0 and 69.0, all the 001.0 were significant. His research results also indicate significant negative correlation between emotional intelligence with criterion variables such as depression, anxiety state was And this reflects the criterion validity of the questionnaire and Cronbach's alpha here were obtained at 84.0 is.
Marriage instability index (MIL): In the year (1987) by Edwards, Johnson and Booth was developed for assessing unstable marriage. This scale with 14 statements of the instability of marriage and divorce is designed especially likely. The first test in 1980 to 2034 and also for 1578 married men and women under 55 years of married men and women were employed in 1983. The validity of this scale has been confirmed in several studies studied And a positive correlation with the scale of the problems and marital discord And a negative correlation with the scales of interaction and marital satisfaction has been confirmed. Cronbach alpha reliability of this scale using 93.0 has been reported (Sanaee, 2008). In Iran, help the yarypoor (1379), to calculate the reliability coefficient of correlation between the mid tools used to assess the validity and reliability of the 70.0 reported.
Results Groups
Table 1. Distribution of samples
DensityPercent
According to information contained in the above table is shown that the sample size is equal in the two groups and the divorce and in the normal group and 60 patients (00.50) and also in the divorce group and 60 patients (00.50) is the sample size.
Time Of marriage
Table 2. Studied the frequency distribution of breakdown of marriage
Density Percent
In accordance with Table 2. The most frequent age for marriage for less than a 50.57 percent (69 patients), and the lowest frequency to the age of marriage for married people over 10 years 30.13 per cent (16 people).
Multivariable analysis of variance groups Demographic information
Table 3. Statistical descriptions scores of Research
Maximum intelligence and extramarital relationships and marriage instability for both Normal and the divorce is shown.
Analysis of variance assumptions Divided Group
Significance level
df2
Df1 f
Box's
2.83 100883.32
6 14.22
87.78
As can be seen in Table 4, test significance level box is equal to 78.87. Since this value is greater than the significance level (01.0) is required to reject the null hypothesis, our null hypothesis that the covariance matrix consistency is approved. Thus, the assumption of homogeneity of covariance matrix, as a multivariate analysis of variance assumptions are established. Another test assumptions multivariate analysis of variance, homogeneity of variance between groups is dependent on and use it to contact investigate this assumption Levine test is used. Results related to the implementation of this test are shown in Table 5.
Table 5. Test results Lavigne to check the homogeneity of variances variable f Degrees of freedom
1
Degrees of freedom 2
Significance level Emotional
Intelligence
40.08 1 118 4.56
Extramarital relations
12.17 1 118 1.00
Marriage instability 66.82 1 118 3.81
As shown in Table 5, the test results is not meaningful Levin in any of the variables. The null hypothesis of homogeneity of variance we will be approved. Thus it follows that the assumption of multivariate analysis of variance, homogeneity of variance, is established.
Table 6. Analysis of variance for comparison between emotional intelligence and extramarital relationships and unstable marriage breakdown Group
effect exams Amounts f Degrees
of_freedom effect
Degrees of freedom
error
Significance level
group Pylayy
effect
0.68 82.71 3 116 0.001
Wilks Lambda
0.31 82.71 3 116 0.001
Hotelling effect
2.13 82.71 3 116 0.001
The root 2.13 82.71 3 116 0.001
Table 7. test subjects to compare the effects of emotional intelligence scores in the two groups.
According to the results presented in Table 7, the amount of F obtained for the emotional intelligence of the two groups is equal to 83.129And at the level of meaningful 05.0. The null hypothesis is rejected and the research hypothesis is
confirmed. Hence it was concluded there is a significant difference between groups in this component.
Table 8. The effects of extramarital relations among the subjects to compare scores between the two groups extramarital relations on the separation of the two groups is equivalent to 74.18 and 05.0 level is significant. The null hypothesis is rejected and the research hypothesis is confirmed. Therefore, it was concluded that the two groups are different components extramarital relationship.
Table 9. Test subjects to compare the effects of marital instability scores in the two groups. Significance instability of marriage to separation of groups is equivalent to 68.76 to 05.0 level is significant. The null hypothesis is rejected and the research hypothesis is confirmed.
Discussion and Conclusion
This study aimed to compare emotional intelligence, extramarital relations (treason) and unstable marriage in women want a divorce and married women were normal. As the results of this study speaks following research hypotheses that have come in are confirmed.
The results of the analysis of the data in Table 7 shows that women want a divorce and normal married women between the emotional intelligence significantly different from that of normal, This means that emotional intelligence divorce women are significantly lower than married women is normal. In this regard Mousavi and Iravanian (2011) kochak entezar,norayny and Ghanbari (2011) and Lvalykar, Kalkarny and Jagtap (2010, quoted by Shanbadi, 2016) showed a positive relationship between emotional intelligence and marital satisfaction that lives up to the researching either direction. Hin on the pattern Meyer, Salvvy and Karso characteristics of people with high emotional intelligence these states. . They express their feelings directly, not afraid of expressing their emotions, to understand non-verbal relationship, your feelings are logical, considering what they are doing, not dependent on others and expect success. About the importance of emotional intelligence has been proposed that people with emotional abilities are better able to face the challenges of life and to more effectively regulate their emotions and mental health and social relationships better. According to the above results it can be said that married women have higher emotional intelligence are normal emotions more effectively regulate and are fewer problems in marriage and easier to cope with problemsBut divorce women who have lower emotional intelligence have difficulty in regulating their emotions And greater difficulty in coping with life's challenges that this can be a contributing factor in their divorce.
Second assumption: women want a divorce more than married women normally have had extramarital relations.
Results Table 8 Data Analysis indicates that women want a divorce in extramarital relationships in campare to married women have experienced very more. Infidelity is an issue that couples therapists regularly encounter in their clinical practice and can be confusing and painful experience for all those who deal with it. In addition, the betrayal of one of the main reasons for divorce and marriage breakdown (Glass & Wright, 1997, quoted Rahimi, 2016). According to the results obtained, we can conclude that divorce women experience more betrayal had and betrayal components have a higher score and this factor can be a good predictor of divorce, people who have taken this step.
The third hypothesis: An unstable marriage in divorce women more than married women is normal.
According to the results presented in Table 9 was concluded that an unstable marriage in divorce women more than married women is normal. In line with the research Aligned communicate effectively with unstable marriage. According to research among people with three attachment styles in terms of the instability of marriage, there was a significant difference (theoretical, the heart and Asadi, 2010).
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