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The Concept of Patience in Adolescents According to The Perspective of Islamic Counseling Guidance
Syahrullah1, Raghib Filhaq2, Dihartawan3, Saiful Bahri4
1Islamic Education Study, Universitas Islam Jakarta
2Faculty of Education Science, Universitas Muhammadiyah Jakarta
3Faculty of Public Health, Universitas Muhammadiyah Jakarta
4Islamic Education Management Doctoral Program, Universitas Muhammadiyah Jakarta Jl. Balai Rakyat No.37, RT.8/RW.10, Utan Kayu Utara, Kec. Matraman, Kota Jakarta Timur,
Daerah Khusus Ibukota Jakarta 13120 Email: [email protected]
Abstract
This article discusses the concept of patience in adolescents according to the perspective of Islamic counseling guidance. The method used is descriptive analysis, by exploring all sources related to the concept of patience in adolescents according to the perspective of Islamic counseling guidance. e. Islam is allah's shari'a for humans, with the provision of sharia that man worships as a form of embodiment to serve Allah swt. In order for humans to restrain themselves or limit the soul from all passions so that the realization of something good known as the concept of patience. Of course, there will be no realization of Islamic sharia without self-forging efforts, and for that it is necessary for the role of Islamic counseling to be introduced from generation to generation to the next generation. Islamic counseling has a huge hand in a teenager. Islam as a religion full of Divine values, will provide positive value in the teenager. That way, Islamic counseling plays an important role in adolescents in this era. Human beings who basically understand the values of the Godhead that exist in them.
Keywords: roles and functions, islamic counseling, concept of patience Introduction
Every human being in his life wants to be able to achieve success, to achieve success it is not enough just to rely on intellectual intelligence. In other words, another intelligence is needed that can support its success, namely emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is measured by the ability to control emotions and restrain oneself. In Islam the ability to control emotions and restraint is called patience.
The most patient people are the ones with the highest emotional intelligence. He is usually steadfast in the face of adversity.1
Patience in Islam is one of the internal elements possessed by every human being. Although this is disputed by intellectual circles about his position in man. Some of them say that patience is an attitude that is owned by everyone and others tend to say that patience is an inherent trait of a person. More than that, this is debated about its existence. Some people say that everyone by nature has this element and some others say that this element arises and sinks in humans.2
183 obediences, stay away from prohibitions and face various tests willingly and resignedly. Meanwhile, according to Sufism experts, patience is essentially a courageous attitude in the face of difficulties. Thus, there are two kinds of patient goals, namely, physical goals such as enduring bodily suffering and staying afloat, such as hard work in worship or other work. In addition, mental targets (lusts) face demands customs and passions. In the context of life, patience is very relevant at any time, without time limit. At this time, many life problems are increasingly complex, both economic problems, unemployment, household, social life, property, lifestyle issues and so on (Sutarman, 2014).3
In this regard, if the patient character grows and develops, then not only the problem of unfavorable behavior can be controlled, but the figure of future generations that is profitable can also be realized. Patient teenagers are teenagers who have a calm, sympathetic attitude, are tolerant of others, are able to control themselves, don't complain and get angry easily, are hard workers and are persistent in carrying out their duties and pursuing their goals. Although patience is heavy and unwelcome, it is possible to manifest and be strengthened. Ways of strengthening are the factors that are assumed to have the most influence on patience.4
Research Methods
This study uses a literature review method where researchers conduct studies involving different types of information from libraries such as books, encyclopedias, documents, etc. with the aim of finding different theories and ideas which can then be formed from the results according to the research objectives.
A literature review of the studies was carried out to conclude Patience in adolescents according to the perspective of Islamic counseling. the texts studied by the researcher and then reduced to are listed in Table below.
Table 1 List of Literature Used in Research No. Researcher'
s Name
Title Publications and Years
Conclusion 1. Najamuddin Patience and Mental
Health in Islamic Counseling Guidance1
Tasamuh: Jurnal Studi Islam Volume 10, Nomor 1, April 2018, 241-272.
In this paper, the guidance and counseling that is meant is Islamic, so it is better if the word Islam is given the meaning first.
Etymologically, Islam comes from Arabic, salima which means peace. From the origin of the word, the word aslama is formed which means to maintain in a safe condition, and also means to surrender, submit, obey and obey.
The word aslama is the subject of
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s Name Years
the word Islam containing all the meanings contained in its main meaning, therefore people who do aslama or convert to Islam are
called Muslims.50
Terminologically, as formulated by Harun Nasution, Islam is a religion whose teachings are revealed by God to human society. through the Prophet Muhammad. as the Messenger of Allah. Starting from this description, what is meant by Islamic guidance is the process of providing assistance to individuals so that they are able to live in harmony with Allah's provisions and instructions so that they can achieve happiness in life in this world and in the hereafter. While Islamic counseling is the process of providing assistance to individuals so that they are aware of their existence as creatures of Allah who should live in harmony with Allah's provisions and instructions so that they can achieve happiness in this world and in the hereafter.
2. Asriyanti Rosmalina
Islamic Counseling Guidance Approach in Improving Adolescent Mental Health5
Holistik 1(1): 70--85 Holistik: Journal For Islamic Social Sciences, 2016
Islamic counseling guidance models in improving mental health are as follows: 1. Reading the Qur'an, by reading the Qur'an (the holy book for Muslims) will make our sins forgiven, multiply goodness, and strengthen hope.
will go to heaven. Therefore, reading the Qur'an is a therapy to relieve anxiety that arises due to feelings of sin. Ibn Taimiyyah said: "The Qur'an is a cure for every disease that is in the chest and for those who have doubts and lust in their hearts. The Qur'an contains various explanations that can sort out the right from the false." 2. Prayer
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s Name Years
makes people draw closer to the Most Holy in the way they act, think and act. Praying is talking, and people will reduce the busyness of life and find information about answers to all questions about life when they pray. Prayer is dhikr and worship.
In prayer there is peace of mind as well as a cure for sadness, confusion, mental anxiety and causes mental health. Because people who pray will hope that Allah will answer their prayers because they justify the word of Allah Ta'ala. 3. Clearing the Heart. Human life is not just physical life. Behind it there is non-physical life and that is precisely what is the essence of life. The existence of sunlight, moonlight, starlight or lamplight to give light, then the non- physical life or spiritual life requires light, but not the light of idhafi what it needs is true light, which does not come from a source but from its own identity.
That is divine light. When we try to clear the walls of our hearts from the fog and dust of lust, lust, abomination, cruelty, and various other types of evil, so that it becomes clean, then immediately Divine light will enter through it and it will become bright.
3. Parida Ariyati
The Role of Guidance and Counseling Teachers in Services to Students during the Covid-19 Pandemic at SMP N 7 Muaro Jambi6
Jurnal Ilmiah
Dikdaya, 11(1), April 2021, halaman 128- 136
In this study, the researchers found out that Guidance and Counseling teacher services during the COVID-19 pandemic at SMPN 7 Muaro Jambi were running smoothly, although there were many obstacles and obstacles both for Guidance and Counseling teachers and for students. The service provided by Guidance and Counseling teachers during the COVID-19
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pandemic at SMPN 7 Muaro Jambi is a classical guidance service, this service is provided with the aim of understanding students while they are at home, both material about maintaining health and education. Students' responses and feelings in receiving Guidance and Counseling teacher services during the COVID-19 pandemic vary according to the situation and condition of the student and his habits. Among them, during the delivery of services, there were some students who liked to face or meet face-to-face with the Guidance and Counseling teacher. Constraints or barriers to Guidance and Counseling services during the COVID-19 pandemic, there are other obstacles in the form of some students who do not have mobile phones, inadequate costs.
4. Ernadewita Patience as Mental Health Therapy7
Jurnal Kajian dan Pengembangan Umat P-ISSN : 2356-413X E-ISSN : 2715-8403 Vol. 3 No. 1 Tahun 2019
In terminology, patience means refraining from everything that is not liked because of the hope of Allah's blessing. Patience does not only apply to things that are not liked, such as death, illness, hunger and so on, but patience is also necessary for things that are liked by lust. Therefore, it is a process of self-control from following the passions, both towards something that is not liked and something that is liked.
Patience as mental health therapy contains many meanings or understandings. First, patience in the form of self-control is patience in a psychological perspective where a person will try to regulate himself to become a person who is able to regulate or manage his emotions. Second, patience in the sense of being
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able to accept the reality of life, especially if the reality of life is inversely proportional to his expectations.
5. Asyifa Qurotul Ain
Contribution of Patience to Mental Health during the Covid-19 Pandemic:
A Case Study on Students of the 2017 Sufism and
Psychotherapy Department8
Jurnal Penelitian Ilmu Ushuluddin Vol. 2 No. 1 (Januari 2022):
50-62
Patience is one of the paths to healing, being patient can make a positive contribution to mental health. Students of the Department of Sufism and Psychotherapy feel that patience contributes to mental health.
6. Ratna Wulan Reality Therapy and the Concept of Patience in Physical Distancing for Students at Astri Aulia Dormitory9
Jurnal Bimbingan dan Konseling Vol.
4 No. 2 Tahun 2020 Halaman 256-289
Implementation of counseling activities using a realistic therapeutic approach with the concept of being patient with clients is quite good in giving the impact of changing behavior experienced by clients.
Previously, the client was always confused, restless, bored and often complained with crayons and had not been able to get used to implementing physical distancing, especially because the client was often active outside the dormitory to take part in routine point activities that were usually carried out and had to be delayed for some time due to the covid-19 outbreak. , by looking at the existing reality, of course, making the client inevitably comply with the applicable regulations, that's why by providing a realistic therapeutic approach that is integrated with the concept of patience, one of the most effective ways to reduce client problems. Although after the counselor tried to provide counseling with a realistic approach and the concept of patience was not completely able to completely eliminate the client's anxiety, at least the client was able to reduce the level of
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anxiety he felt and was much more stable than his previous behavior and the client felt much calmer when surrendering to Allah with current conditions.
7. Rahmania, dkk.
The Relationship of Gratitude and Patience to
Subjective Welfare in Adolescents10
Psikologika Jurnal Pemikiran dan Penelitian Psikologi Vol. 24 No. 2 Tahun 2019 Halaman 155-166
In this research, thank you and be patient significantly related to subjective well-being in adolescents. The higher the gratitude and patience possessed by the subject, the higher the level of subjective well-being.
Conversely, the lower the gratitude and patience possessed by the subject, the lower the level of subjective well-being.
8. Indrawati Noor Kamila, Ujang Endang
The Relevance of the Goals of Islamic Education With the Concept of Patience According to Imam Al-Gazali in the Book of Ihya Ulumuddin11
Jurnal Tarbiyah Al- Aulad Vol. 1 No. 2 Tahun 2016 Halaman 60-70
In the Islamic perspective, patience is one of the noble morals that prevents the emergence of actions that are not good and not attractive.
Where patience is a soul force that makes all the affairs of the soul good and complete. In the perspective of Imam Al-Ghazali that "patience is a process to leave actions full of lust, which are produced by a situation.
Patience is the position of the position of religion and the degrees of the degrees of those who follow the path to Allah.
9. Asriyanti Rosmalina
Islamic Counseling Guidance Approach in Improving Adolescent Mental Health5
Holistik: Journal For Islamic Social Sciences 1(1): 70-85 Tahun
Islamic counseling guidance models in improving Mental Health are as follows:
1. Reading the Qur'an, by reading the Qur'an (the holy book for Muslims) will make our sins forgiven, multiply goodness, and strengthen the hope of going to heaven.
Therefore, reading the Qur'an is a therapy to relieve anxiety that arises due to feelings of sin. Ibn Taimiyyah said: "The Qur'an is a cure for every disease in the chest and for those in whose hearts there are
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s Name Years
doubts and lust. The Qur'an contains various explanations that can sort out the right from the false.
2. Prayer brings people closer to the Most Holy in the way they act, think and act. Praying is talking, and people will reduce the busyness of life and find information about answers to all questions about life when they pray. Prayer is dhikr and worship. In prayer there is peace of mind as well as a cure for sadness, confusion, mental anxiety and causes mental health. Because people who pray will hope that Allah will answer their prayers because they justify the word of Allah Ta'ala.
10. Ismail Syakban, Sanwanih, Reyhan Respati
The Concept of Guidance and Counseling in the Perspective of the Qur'an Surah Al- Kahf Verses 60 - 8212
Jurnal Kajian dan Pengembangan Umat Vol.4 No.1 Tahun 2021
The concept of guidance and counseling contained in the Qur'an Surah Al-Kahf verses 60 to verse 82, regarding the story between the Prophet Musaa and the servant of Allah Khidir, namely: first, in the aspect of the counselee. Namely persistence and strong determination for a counselee in finding a mentor (counselor). As did Prophet Musa AS when looking for the servant of Allah Khidr. Second, in the aspect of mentors (counselors).
That is; Have knowledge and knowledge, personality and competence. Third, in the aspect of service. That is;
Communication (dialogue), Advice and Modeling Methods.
Result
The results of research from various literature sources that have been used show that patience in humans already exists and is a natural for everyone. It is clearly contained in the Qur'an as well as the Hadith. The most important factor emphasized by Islamic law in indicating patience in everyone is to
190 intended to maintain human survival.
Discussion
A. Patience Concept
Patience (ash-shabru) according to language is refraining from complaining. There is also ash- shibru with kasrah-kan shad which means bitter medicine, namely bitter tree juice. To be patient means to tell him to be patient. The month of patience, which means the month of fasting. Thus, patience is self- restraint to carry out various obediences, stay away from prohibitions and face various tests willingly and resignedly. Ash-Shabur (The Most Patient) is also one of Allah's Asma'ul Husna, namely those who are not in a hurry to take action prematurely.6 According to Ibn Qayyim al-Jauziyyah, there are three kinds of patience: Patience in obedience to Allah, patience from disobedience to Allah, and patience in Allah's trials.13
1. Patience In Facing Trial
Be patient in facing trials, where all humans will experience trials or tests in their lives, whether the trials are in the form of hunger, thirst, illness, fear of losing loved ones and lack of property (Kaltsum, 2018). Trials like this are natural and human, it is sunnatullah every human being will face a test like this and no one can avoid it. What is needed in facing this trial or test is high patience, because patiently a person will be able to face every test calmly and let it go to Allah as the most helpful substance and the giver of a way out of every problem.
2. Patience In Controlling Lust
Patience in controlling lust because lust encourages humans to get all the pleasures, pleasures, luxuries and splendor of the world. But following all these pleasures will only make people forget the real purpose of life, which is to reach the pleasure of Allah in this world and the hereafter. So to control all these desires requires high patience so that every human being is able to control and control his lustful desires.
Because following all the desires of lust will lead humans to animalistic nature that makes humans want to enjoy all the pleasures of life in the world so that they forget themselves and even forget their creator.
3. Patient in Obedience to Allah
Patience in obedience to Allah, in worshiping Allah really requires extraordinary patience, because in worship what is needed is perseverance and istiqamahan. Worship will be meaningless if it is carried out according to individual wishes and desires alone, but every worship has clear rules and guidelines that every human being must pay attention to and follow. Worship that is done without a clear basis will only be in vain. For this reason, extraordinary patience is needed in carrying out every worship so that humans can feel pleasure and happiness after carrying out worship. And the most important thing for humans to realize
191 in the world and the hereafter (Saifulloh, 2019). Worship is human nature to serve a substance that is higher and greater than himself, because with worship humans will feel calm and tranquility both physically and mentally. So to build order in worship requires practice and high patience so that boredom and boredom do not arise in carrying out worship.7
B. Islamic Counseling Guidance
Islamic counseling guidance according to H. M. Arifin is a service that carries out the main task of providing a guiding child's way of life whose main emphasis is on changing the attitude and mentality of students towards faith and piety to Allah and being able to practice the teachings of Islam. According to Tohari Musnamar, the notion of Islamic counseling guidance is the process of providing assistance to individuals to re-realize their existence as God's creatures who should live in harmony with God's provisions and instructions, so that they can achieve happiness in this world and the hereafter.
Based on the above opinion, it can be concluded that the meaning of Islamic counseling guidance is the process of providing assistance to individuals who experience physical and spiritual difficulties in order to realize their existence as God's creatures who should live in harmony with God's provisions and instructions, so that they can overcome the problems faced with the ability to behave and act. Mentally independent according to Islamic teachings to achieve happiness in this world and the hereafter.5
C. Factors Relationship of Patience With Treatment of Schizophrenia
Mental disorder is a syndrome of psychological or behavioral changes that occur clinically in a person and can be associated with the presence of distress (e.g. pain symptoms) or disability (i.e. impairment in one or more important areas of function) or with an increased risk of painful death. Psychiatric functions include thought processes, emotions, will, patience, psychomotor behavior, and speech. It can be concluded that mental disorders are a manifestation of a form of behavioral deviation due to emotional distortion so that irregularities are found in behaving.
One hallmark of schizophrenia is hallucinations (incorrect and unrealistic sensory perceptions).
Hallucinations can involve the five senses and other bodily sensations. According to Nurhalimah (2016) signs and symptoms of self-care deficits in hallucinatory patients can be found through observation, one of which is the inability to make up/dress up, characterized by disheveled hair, dirty and untidy clothes, inappropriate clothes, male patients do not shave, in female patients who do not make up. From the results of observations that have been carried out by researchers in the field 2 times on self-care in self-dressing in schizophrenic patients.
192 Some of them say that patience is an attitude that is owned by everyone and others tend to say that patience is an inherent trait of a person. Patient teenagers are teenagers who have a calm, sympathetic attitude, are tolerant of others, are able to control themselves, don't complain and get angry easily, are hard workers and are persistent in carrying out their duties and pursuing their goals. According to Ibn Qayyim al-Jauziyyah, there are three kinds of patience: Patience in obedience to Allah, patience from disobedience to Allah, and patience in Allah's trials. Worship will be meaningless if it is carried out according to individual wishes and desires alone, but every worship has clear rules and guidelines that every human being must pay attention to and follow.
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