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p e m b a n t u y a n g m e r a n g k a p p e n g a s u h a n a k . B a h k a n , a d a p e m b a n t u y a n g c u m a t a h a n s e h a r i . Y a n g m e n y e r a m k a n , a d a y a n g n y a r i s b e r k e l a h i s e s a m a p e m b a n t u s a r n b i l : m e m b a w a s e n j a t a t a j a m . " S e m u a i t u d i l a k u k a n d i d e p a n a n a k - a n a k , " k a t a n y a .P e m b a n t u y a n g a d a k i n i s u d a h b e k e r j a s e k i t a r t i g a b u l a n a n . U s i a m e r e k a 4 0 t a h u n d a n 2 0 t a h u n .
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P e g a w a i n e g e r i s i p i l ( P N S ) i n i b a r u s a d a r b a h w a s i a n a k s e r i n g b e r b o h o n g s a a t s i p e m b a n t u s u d a h h e n g k a n g . " T e r n y a t a p e m b a n t u s u k a m e n g a n c a m . J a n g a n b i -l a n g - b i -l a n g k e a y a h i b u y a . . . , m i s a l k a n , t a d i s a l a h s a t u m b a k m a i n , k e l u a r , " u n g k a p n y a .
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k a t a n y a . P s i k o l o g F r i d h a Z o e l q a i d a w a t i R a s y i d m e m b e n a r k a n u p a y a o r a n g t u a m e n d e k a t k a n d i r i k e p a d a a n a k . A n a k a n a k p e m b a n -t u , k a -t a d i a , -t a k b i s a d i m u n g k i r i k i n i b a n y a k t e r j a d i . P e n y e b a b n y a , a n a k d i a s u h s e p e n u h-n y a o l e h p e -n g a s u h . " S e p a n j a n g h a r i y a n g
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M a s a a n a k m e l a k u k a n i d e n t i f i k a s i t o k o h a d a l a h p a d a u s i a n o l h i n g g a l i m a t a h u n . B i l a m a s a - r n a s a i t u p e m b a n t u l e b i h d o m i n a n d i b a n d i n g k a n o r a n g t u a , t a k h e -r a n l a h a k a n t e r b e n t u k a n a k p e m b a n t u . P e r i l a k u d a n k e b i a s a a n p e m b a n t u a k a n m e n j a d i p a n u t a n a n a k . " B e r u n t u n g k a l a u p e r i l a k u , k a r a k t e r p e m b a n t u i t u b a i k , k a l a u s e b a l i k n y a , b e r a r t i a n a k m e n j a d i k o r b a n ," k a t a n y a .
T a k a d a o r a n g t u a y a n g m a u a n a k a n a k -n y a m e -n g i d e -n t i f i k a s i k e p e m b a n t u . N a -m u n , d i s i s i l a i n , a y a h b u n d a h a r u s b e k e r j a m e n c a r i n a f k a h u n t u k k e b u t u h a n a n a k -a n -a k j u g a . K a r e n a i t u , i a m e n y a r a n k a n o r a n g t u a u n t u k m e n g h i n d a r k a n a n a k t e r -l a -l u b a n y a k m e n g h a b i s k a n w a k t u d e n g a n p e m b a n t u . " A n a k d i b u a t s i b u k k o n s t r u k -t i f , l e b i h m e m b a n g u n ," t a m b a h l u l u s a n F a k u l t a s P s i k o l o g i U n i v e r s i t a s P a d j a -d j a r a n B a n d u n g i n i .
O r a n g t u a b e k e r j a h a r u s m e m e r h a t i k a n a n a k - a n a k m e r e k a . S i a n g h a r i m e r e k a t e t a p m e n j a l i n k o m u n i k a s i d e n g a n a n a k l e w a t t e l e p o n . F r i d h a m e n g i n g a t k a n m e r e -k a u n t u -k m e m b e r i -k a n p e r h a t i a n d a n k a s i h s a y a n g s e p u l a n g d a r i k a n t o r . " E m o s i i n i y a n g d i b u t u h k a n a n a k - a n a k ," , u n g k a p p s i k o l o g a n a k i n i .
M e n u r u t F r i d h a , k e h a d i r a n p e n g a s u h t i d a k b o l e h s e l a m a n y a , m a k s i m a l s a m p a i a n a k u s i a T K . A n a k m a s u k S D t i d a k p e r l u l a g i m e m a k a i p e n g a s u h y a n g k h u s u s m e n g u r u s i n y a . P a d a a k h i r n y a , a n a k h a m s m a n -d i r i m e n g e r j a k a n k e b u t u h a n n y a s e n d i r i . A n d a i k a n m a s i h m e m b u t u h k a n p e n g a s u h , i t u s e k a d a r m e n g i n g a t k a n k e b u t u h a n a n a k . " T a p i , y a n g m e n g e r j a k a n h a r u s l a h a n a k i t u s e n d i r i ," k a t a n y a .
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O r a n g t u a h a r u s t e g a s k e p a d a p e m b a n -t u , -t e r m a s u k a p a y a n g b o l e h d a n t i d a k . S e p e r t i p e m b a n t u d i l a r a n g m e m b a w a m e s u k l a k i - I a k i k e r u m a h . " K a l a u t e t a p d i l a k u k a n , h a r u s d i t e g u r , j a n g a n d i b i a r k a n . K a l a u t i d a k m a u t a a t , l e b i h b a i k m e n c a r i y a n g b a r u , " k a t a n y a .
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l d e a l n y a a n a k u s i a T K , a n t u s i a s , s e n a n g b e r m a i n , c e r i t a , b a h a g i a m e n y a m b u t a y a h i b u n y a p u l a n g d a r i k a n t o r . u K a l a u a n a k a d a m a s a l a h c e n d e r u n g m u r u n g , m e n a r i l y : l i r i , m a l a s m e l a k u k a n a p a p u n , " k a t a n ~ M a j u g a a n a k y a n g t a k p e d u l i d e n g a n o r a n g
t u a n y a . l a l e b i h a s y i k b e r s a m a d e n g a n ~ p e m b a n t u . F r i d h a m e n g i n g a t k a n i n i ' • s e b a g a i t a n d a s u d a h t i d a k a d a l a g i k e t e r i k a t a n a n t a r a a n a k d e \ . n g a n o r a n g t u a n y ~
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s e m e k in t e r b a t a s ~ s e n a n g m e n o n t o n s i n e t r o n s a j a b e r a r t i i d e n t i f i k a s i n y a p a d a p e m b a n t u . S e b a g a i p s i k o l o g a n a k k a t a d i a , a d a b e b e r a p a k a s u s 'a n a k p e m b a n t u ' y a n g p e r n a h d i t a n g a n i n y a . F r i d h a m e m i n t a o r a n g t u a b e k e r j a s a m a d e n g a n g u r u d i s e k o l a h . G u r u m e m b e r i e k s t r a p e r h a t i a n b a g i a n a k d e n g a n c a r a m e n g a l i h k a n p e r h a -l i a n d a r i s i m b a k . M i s a l n y a . p e n g a s u h
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