“Lebih baik kamu bicarakan baik -baik sama pacar kamu, kamu pastikan bahwa kamu sangat mencintainya dan jika dia emang bener-bener sayang dan cinta ama kamu dia pasti akan terima kamu dan sahabatmu.”
(“You should talk it carefully to your boyfriend/girlfriend. Tell him/her that you really love him/her so much. If he/she really loves you too, he/she will understand you and your bestfriend.”)
Respondent 2
“Kayaknya pacar kamu cemburu deh, liat kamu deket-deket ma sahabat kamu…Mungkin kamu lebih dekat sama sahabatmu daripada ma dia dech. Mending kamu jaga jarak dgn sobatmu dech, kan kasian pacar kamu, klo liat kamu me sobatmu dua-duaan teruz.”
(“Perhaps your boyfriend/girlfriend is jealous to see you are close to your bestfriend. Maybe you are closer to your bestfriend rather than to him/her. You should keep a distance with your bestfriend because it is so pity for your boyfriend/girlfriend to see you and your bestfriend always together.”) Respondent 3
“Bilang donk sama cowokmu, kasih penjelasan! Bilang kalo kamu lebih mengenal sahabatmu dulu ketimbang cowokmu. Dengan konsekuen kamu juga harus menyeimbangkan proporsi waktu antara kamu dengan mereka.” (“Tell it to your boyfriend. Give an explanation to him! Tell that you have known your bestfriend longer than you have known him. With the consequent, you can balance your time with them.”)
Respondent 4
“Kalo ngga ngerti -ngerti kamu harus sabar kasih pengertian ke dia. Bilang aja kamu ga bakal bisa milih antara pacar/sahabatmu. Bilang juga kamu sayang ma mereka berdua.”
(“If he/she can not understand, you must be patient to give understanding to him/her. Tell him/her that you will not be able to choose between him/her and your bestfriend. Tell also that you love them both.”)
Respondent 5
“Ya kamu harus nerangin ke dia tentang perbedaan kasih sayang antara sahabat dengan pacar.”
(“You should tell him/her the difference between affection to a boyfriend/girlfriend and to a bestfriend.”)
Respondent 6
“Coba bicaralah baik -baik dan beri pengertian padanya. Pasti dia mau mengerti keadaanmu. Bagaimanapun keadaannya, teman itu pasti lebih berharga. Pacaran dapat putus tetapi persahabatan sejati akan kekal.” (“Try to talk as well as possible to him/her. Give some understanding to him/her. He/she will understand it definitely. Whatever the situation is, a friend is more worthy. Relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend can be break off but a real friendship will be everlasting.”)
Respondent 7
“Gimana kalo kamu kasih pengertian dulu ke pacarmu. Trus kamu kenalin sahabatmu itu biar mereka akrab, pasti pacarmu lama-lama bisa ngerti juga.”
(“How about giving understanding to your boyfriend/girlfriend first? You can introduce your bestfriend to him/her next. Later your boyfriend/girlfriend can absolutely understand it.”)
Respondent 8
“Kalo aku jadi kamu mungkin aku akan piker -pikir lagi karena ga enak punya pacar yang suka ngatur-ngatur. Tapi kalo memang hubungan kamu
dan temanmu memang terlalu or lebih deket ya jangan sampai jadi temen tapi mesra.”
(“If I were you , maybe I would think it again. It is uncomfortable to have a boyfriend/girlfriend who always controls you. However, if your relationship with your bestfriend is too close, do not be intimate friends.”) Respondent 9
“Memang untuk saling pengertian itu sulit, lebih baik jelasin sama pacar kamu kalo dia hanya sahabat kamu ndak lebih.”
(“It is hard to understand each other. You had better explain it to your boyfriend/girlfriend if this boy/girl is only your bestfriend and not more.”) Respondent 10
“Pacaran vs sahabatan masalah yang umum dihadapi seseorang. Kamu harus bisa menegaskan batas antara pacar dan sahabat kamu.”
(“Dating vs having friendship is a common problem for everyone. You must be able to assert the limitation between boyfriend/girlfriend and bestfriend.”)
Respondent 11
“Kamu kasih pengertian ke pacarmu. Gimanapun temen lebih penting. Yah, mungkin kamu perlu kasih sedikit perhatian ke pacarmu biar dia tidak cemburu.”
(“You should give understanding to your b oyfriend/girlfriend. However, a friend is more important. Ya, maybe you have to give little attention to him/her so thst he/she will not be jealous.”)
Respondent 12
“Kamu bilang aja, sebelum ada pacarmu kan kam u udah kenal sahabatmu dan dia lebih ngerti kamu, di mana kalian biasa berdua. Selagi kamu masih bisa jaga hubungan dengan pacarmu baik-baik. It’ s OK!”
(“You just have to tell that before you know your boyfriend/girlfriend you have known your bestfriend and this bestfriend understand you more. Both of you are usually together. As long as you can keep your relationship with your him/her, it is OK!”)
Respondent 13
“Kamu beri pengertian baik -baik sama pacarmu, beri penjelasan ke dia kalo kamu deket cuma sebatas temen/sahabat aja.”
(“You should give understanding to your boyfriend/girlfriend carefully. Explain to him/her that this boy/girl is only your bestfriend.”)
Respondent 14
“Ah? Dia kan cuma cemburu. Mungkin kamu lebih berat ke sahabatmu. Ya maklum sih… b agi waktu saja, kalo pacar kamu possessive banget nggak lha yaw….”
(“Ah? He is only jealous. Maybe you are closer yo your bestfriend. Ya, it is natural. Share your time. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is so possessive, No way…”)
Respondent 15
“Kamu udah coba ngomong ma pacarmu kalo kamu dan sahabatmu udah deket dari kecil? Truz juga bilang kalo kamu janji akan lebih adil dalam membagi waktu baik tu dengan pacarmu ato sahabatmu. Pasti lama-lama dia bisa ngerti kok. Percaya deh.”
(“Have you tried to tell to you r boyfriend/girlfriend that you and your bestfriend have known each other for a long time? Then have you told him/her that you promise to be fairer in sharing your time for him/her and your bestfriend? Later he/she will understand it. Believe me.”)
PROBLEM 9
RESULTS: Respondent 1
“Kamu harus tegas, kamu harus bisa menolaknya karena hal itu bukannya membantu teman tapi menjerumuskan teman. Teman qta jadi tidak mengerti apa-apa, dia hanya menggantungkan hidupnya padamu. Kalau dia memaksa laporkan saja pada dosen yang bersangkutan biar dosen itu bicara dengan temanmu itu.”
(“You must be distinct. You must refuse it because this will not help him/her but drop him/her. Our friend will understand nothing. He/she will just entrust his/her life on you. If he/she insists, you must tell it to your lecturer. Let this lecturer talk to your friend.”)
Respondent 2
“Ga’ sopan banget seeh dia…Kapan dia bisa mandiri, kalo mesti kayak gitu. Niat kuliah gak seeh?? Kayaknya kamu harus ngomong dech sama dia. Biar nggak keterlaluan gitu ama temen, OK!!”
(“He/she is so impolite. When can he/she be independent if he/she always does like this? Does he/she want to study? You should talk to him/her so he/she will not go too far to his/her friend.”)
Respondent 3
“Gila…tuch! Males b anget lagi. Hari gini masih ada aja yang ngikut. Ngomong aja ke dia langsung. Bilang juga kamu gak bakalan bikinin tugas dia lagi coz itu gak baik buat dirinya juga.”
(“It is so crazy. It is so miserable. There is still a dependable person in this modern day. Talk to him/her directly. Tell him/her that you will not do his/her assignment anymore because it will not be good for him/her also.”) Respondent 4
“Jangan mau lagi! Enak banget dia!!”
(“D o not do it anymore!! He has gone too far.”) Respondent 5
“Ya kamu harus tegas dong sama dia. Toh lagian tugas itu buat dia.” (“You must be distinct to him/her. After all, that assignment is for him/her.”)
Respondent 6
“Coba jelaskan ke dia, tindakannya itu salah dan pasti akan merugikannya sendiri di kemudian hari.”
(“Try to explain to him/her that what he/she has done is wrong and it will definitely harm himself/herself in the future.”)
Respondent 7
“Kamu bilang aja kalo kamu juga sibuk punya banyak kerjaan tugas.” (“You should tell him that you are also busy an d you have so many things to do.”)
Respondent 8
“Kalo aku jadi kamu, aku ga mau buatin. Bilang aja kamu lagi sibuk, jadine cuma bisa bantu, besoknya kalo masih seperti itu ya mending jaga jarak aja, temen tuh ga memanfaatkan.”
(“If I were you, I would not make it for him/her. Tell him/her that you are busy. So you can only help. If he/she is still like that you should keep a distance to him/her. A friend is not to be abused.”)
Respondent 9
“Ngomong ke dia kalo tugas kamu juga banyak dan saranin ke dia ka lo berusaha buat sendiri dia lebih mengerti dan paham dengan materi tersebut.”
(“Tell him/her that you also have a lot of assignments. Suggest him/her to make it by himself/herself. So he/she will understand the material more.”) Respondent 10
“Itu salah ka mu kalau dia sampai bisa meminta tolong secara sewenang-wenang. Tegesin kalo kamu mau bantu dia nyelesain tugas semampu kamu, dan tolak kalo dia berlebihan minta tolong. Jangan merasa bersalah karena tugasnya bukan kewajiban kamu.”
(“That is you r fault if he/she ask your help arbitrarily. Explain that you only want help finishing his/her assignment as much as you can. Refuse it if he/she asks something too much. Do not feel guilty because his/her assignment is not your responsibility.”)
Respondent 11
“Wah k amu jangan mau to ya. Laen kali kamu bilang kalo kamu cuma mau memberi masukan.”
(“Do not do that. Next time, tell him/her that you only want to give some suggestions to make that assignment.”)
Respondent 12
“Kamu tegasin aja apa yang kamu rasain. Langsung aja bilang ke dia daripada kamu ga’ tenang.”
(“You have to explain about your feeling to him/her. Tell him/her directly or you will not be peaceful.”)
Respondent 13
“Kamu bersikap tegas sama dia donk! Jangan mau dimanfaatkan sama dia, dia kan mau enak-enakan aja ga mo mikir atau kamu bisa menghindar dengan cari alasan yang tepat yang ga memungkinkan dia untuk minta bantuan kamu untuk mbuatin tugasnya.”
(“You must act distinctly to him/her. Do not want to be exploited. He/she only wants to be pleasant and do not want to think. Or you can avoid him/her by finding a perfect reason which can not make him/her able to ask your help doing his/her assignment.”)
Respondent 14
“Ah? Males ah kalau aku. Orang kayak gitu tuh manipulasi kamu. Emang kamu mau dijadikan “o taknya” trus dia yang dapet nilainya? Bilang No! Darling!”
(“Ah? If I were you I would not do it. That kind of person is manipulating you. Do you want always be his/her “brain” and he/she always gets the mark? Say No, darling!”)
Respondent 15
“Kamu teges dong ngomong ama dia kalo ini tuh yang kuliah dia dan untuk masa depan sendiri juga. Slaen tu, kamu juga brani bersikap teges untuk nolak permintaan dia. Kamu kan juga punya kegiatan/pekerjaan sendiri ya ga cuma bikin tugas dia aja!”
(“You must talk distinc tly to him/her. He/she is the one who is studying and it is for him/her own future. Beside that you also have to act distinctly in refusing his/her request. You also have another activity not only doing his/her assignment.”)
PROBLEM 10
RESULTS: Respondent 1
“Kamu harus ngajak Inno menemui Bu Sinta. Suruhlah inno kasih penjelasan tentang nilai itu sehingga Bu Sinta tahu duduk permasalahannya.”
(“You must ask Inno to meet Mrs. Sinta. Ask him to explain about that mark so Mrs. Sinta will know the real problem.”)
Respondent 2
“Jangan nyerah dulu, kamu harus ngomong en bilang masalah sebenarnya sama Bu Sinta. Bila perlu ngajak Inno sekalian biar dia ngaku kalo dia emang ngopi makalahmu. Sapa tau Bu Sinta berubah pikiran.”
(“Do not give up first. You have to tel l the real problem to Mrs. Sinta. If it is necessary, you ask Inno to meet Mrs. Sinta with you. Let him admit that he already copied your paper. Maybe Mrs. Sinta will change her mind.”) Respondent 3
“Kalo bener Bu Sinta gak mau denger penjelasanmu, ya terima aja. Buat pelajaran! Atau kalo gak kamu ngomong aja ke Inno. Bikin dia ngaku ma Bu Sinta soal ketidakadilannya.”
(“If Mrs. Sinta does not want to hear your explanation , you should accept it. Make it as a lesson! Or you can talk to Inno and make him admit to Mrs. Sinta about his unfairness.”)
Respondent 4
“Kamu jujur aja. Nanti kalo dia ga percaya aku bantuin ngomong dech. Kalo masih ga percaya terpaksa kamu harus minta pengakuan Inno. lagian kan emang dia yang bohong katanya cuma mo liat tapi malah ngopi semua.”
(“You just have to be honest. If she does not believe you, I will help you to talk to her. If she still does not believe, you have to ask Inno’s confession.
Besides, the one who has lied is Inno. He said that he just wanted to see your paper but he had already copied it all.”)
Respondent 5
“Tapi setidaknya kamu jelasin dulu ke dia.”
(“At least you should explain it to Mrs. Sinta first.”) Respondent 6
“Sabar dan tenang, berdoa dan jelaskan keadaan dan kejadian yang sebenarnya pasti Bu Sinta dapat mengerti.”
(“Be patient and calm down. Pray to God and explain the real situation and the incident to Mrs. Sinta. She will absolutely understand it.”)
Respondent 7
“Kamu coba dulu deh kasih penjelasan ke Bu Sinta. Aku yakin Bu Sinta pasti mau ngerti kalo kita ngomong dulu ke dia.”
(“You should try to explain it first to Mrs. Sinta. I believe that Mrs. Sinta will definitely understand it if we discuss it first with her.”)
Respondent 8
“Coba menghadap Bu Sinta dan kalo masih ga percaya coba tunjukin bukti-bukti bahwa itu hasil karyamu. Kamu bisa saja minta diuji seberapa kamu memahami makalahmu kan?”
(“Try to meet Mrs. Sinta. If she still does not believe it, try to show some proofs if that paper is yours. You can ask her to test how far you understand your paper, right?”)
Respondent 9
“Kamu tunjukkan ke Bu Sinta makalah asli kamu dan yakinkan ke Bu Sinta kalo Inno yang mengkopi makalah kamu pasti Bu Sinta akan mendengarkan penjelasanmu.”
(“You have to show your original paper to Mrs. Sinta and convince her that Inno has copied yours. She will definitely listen to your explanation.”)
Respondent 10
“Kamu harus menjelaskan permasalahannya pada Bu Sinta. Aku yakin beliau mau mendengarkan. Dan kalau beliau tetap tidak percaya dan berniat memberi nilai E, minta beliau mengajukan pertanyaan yang ada hubungannya dengan makalah tersebut secara detail padamu.”
(“You have to explain the problem to Mrs. Sinta. I believe that she will listen to it. If she still does not believe it and she gives you E, request her to ask to you some detailed questions that related with your paper.”) Respondent 11
“Kalo gitu kamu bilang ke Inno suruh dia ngaku sama Bu Sinta. Dia harus bertanggung jawab.”
(“If it is like that, you have to tell Inno and ask him to admit to Mrs. Sinta. He must be responsible for that.”)
Respondent 12
“Kamu temui aja Bu Sinta, bilang ke dia untuk revisi makalah. Kamu minta topic yang lain sebagai bukti bahwa kamu bisa dan kamu bukan plagiator, OK!
(“You should meet Mrs. Sinta. Tell her that you want to revise the paper. You can ask another topic as the proof that you can do it and you are not the plagiarist, OK!”)
Respondent 13
“Kamu harusnya bicarain dulu sama Bu Sinta tentang masalah yang sebenarnya. Ato kamu bisa minta tugas pengganti sama Bu Sinta. Dengan demikian bisa ketauan mana yang nyontek tugas orang lain. Setelah itu kamu harus memperingatkan Inno untuk tidak mengkopi tugas orang lain lagi.”
(“You have to discuss the real problem with Mrs. Sinta first. Or you can ask her another assignment as a replacement. Thus, it can be proved the one who has copied other’s assignment. After that you must warn Inno for not copying other’s assignment anymore.”)
Respondent 14
“Hah…kamu harus jelaskan baik -baik tuch, pasti dia mau dengar. Belajar donk untuk nggak terlalu baik sama orang asing. Jahat ih tuch orang. Kamu mau aku temenin ngomong ke Bu Sinta?”
(“Hah…you have to explain it as well as possible to her. She will absolutely listen to it. You have to learn not to believe a stranger. He is so cruel. Do you want me to accompany you talking to Mrs. Sinta?”)
Respondent 15
“Kamu merasa udah bener kan dalam hal ini? Truz kenapa musti takut. Tinggal bawa aja Inno ke Bu Sinta untuk ngomong dan ngejelasin sendiri tentang isi makalahnya. Pasti dia langsung keluar keringat dingin dan ga bisa ngomong pa pa. Suatu kebenaran cepat atau lambat pasti akan terungkap kok! Yakin deh.”
(“You felt correct in this case, right? Then why do you have to be afraid? You just have to take Inno to Mrs. Sinta to tell and explain about the content of that paper himself. He will definitely be nervous and he will not be able to say anything. Truth will be revealed sooner or later. Believe it.”)