1 - What Every Young Person Needs to Know About Bullying
2 - What to Do if You are Being Bullied 3 - How to Help Prevent Bullying in
Your School
4 - Questions and Answers
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Dealing with Bullying in Schools© Sage Publications 2004
2B - What to Do if You are Being Bullied (II)
Remember, the Bully has the Problem, Not You
Bullies and their friends are very good at getting the people they bully to believe that there is ‘something the matter’ with them Remember, people can be bullied ‘for’ a number of so-called
‘reasons’, which are really just excuses to behave in a nasty way There is NO excuse or reason to bully someone!
Don’t Fight Back Physically!
We are often told that we should stand up for ourselves and physically fight bullies, but this is WRONG
If we lose:
we will be beaten up even worse If we win (very unlikely):
Either, the bully could pretend that he or she was the one who was picked on, and we will be in trouble with the school, or
The bully will get his or her friends and relations to take revenge If we get together a gang, or something like that:
the bully gets together a bigger gang, so then we get an even bigger gang, then the bully gets an even bigger gang than that…. and sooner or later, someone ends up in hospital / expelled / in trouble with the police
3B - How to Help Prevent Bullying in Your School (II)
Dealing With Your Own Feelings
Many people bully others, or get in trouble in other ways, because they don’t control their anger
Questions to think about:
What does anger feel like?
How do we behave when we are angry?
What things make each of us angry?
Has anger got us into trouble before?
What alternatives do we have to losing our temper?
How can we calm ourselves down?
3A – How to Help Prevent Bullying in Your School (I)
Don’t Be A Bully Yourself!
There’s nothing good about bullying others – it is WRONG, and bullying is the actions of a COWARD
Don’t pick on others, or let your friends pick on others Try to include people instead of leaving them out
Treat other people how you would like to be treated yourself Understanding How Other People Feel
Not everybody feels the same way you do about everything!
It’s hard to understand how others feel, but it is worth it Think – how do people feel when they are being bullied?
Respecting Other People For Who They Are Think about what you have in common with a person,
instead of thinking about the differences
Don’t judge people, or listen to others who judge people Don’t treat people badly because of their race, religion,
sexuality or nationality
2C – What to Do if You are Being Bullied (III)
How to Cope if You are Being Verbally Bullied
Remember, if you have been physically hurt, the school or police should deal with this, but you can do something yourself about verbal bullying Remember, bullies want an upset reaction If we can avoid giving an upset reaction, then we
buy ourselves some time Try one of four tactics:
The silent treatment Use of humour
Saying ‘thanks’ to everything
Assertiveness – standing up for yourself in a non- aggressive way
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Other Things to Do in School
Always play fair in classes, sports, activities, and out of school
Treat others how you’d like to be treated yourself
Ask your teachers if you can do some anti- bullying work, or have an ‘anti-bullying week’
Get involved in mediation/mentoring/
prefecting where these things exist Make a class charter
THANKS FOR LISTENING!
ANY QUESTIONS?
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1 Amongst other places, documented in Olweus, D. (1993) Bullying: What We Know and What We Can Do. Oxford: Blackwell.
2 O’Moore, A.M., Kirkham, C. and Smith, M. (1997) ‘Bullying behaviour in Irish schools: a nationwide study’,Irish Journal of Psychology, 18 (2): 141–69.
3 Smith, P.K. (1997) ‘Bullying in schools: the UK experience and the Sheffield anti- bullying project’,Irish Journal of Psychology, 18 (2): 191–201.
4 Mellor, A. (1990).Spotlight 23: Bullying in Scottish Secondary Schools. Edinburgh:
Scottish Council for Research in Education.
5 Rigby, K. and Slee, P.T. (1999) ‘Australia’ in P.K. Smith, Y. Morita, J. Junger-Tas, D.
Olweus, R. Catalano and P. Slee (eds),The Nature of School Bullying: A Cross-National Perspective. London: Routledge.
6 Marr, N. and Field, T. (2001) Bullycide: Death at Playtime. Oxford: Success Unlimited.
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1 In Olweus, D. 1991 ‘Bully/victim problems among school children: basic facts and effects of a school based intervention program’, in D. Pepler and K. Rubin (eds),The Development and Treatment of Childhood Aggression. Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates. p. 413.
2 Smith, P.K. and Sharp, S. (eds) (1998) School Bullying: Insights and Perspectives.
London: Routledge. p. 2.
3 An acknowledged adoption of a Scandinavian definition (Roland, 1989), used in a study by Andrew Mellor (1990); cited in Mellor, A. (1999), in P.K. Smith et al. (eds), The Nature of School Bullying: A Cross-National Perspective. London: Routledge. pp.93–4.
4 From the Depatment of Education (1993) Guidelines on Countering Bullying Behaviour in Primary and Post-primary Schools. Dublin: The Stationery Office.
5 In Smith, P.K. and Thompson, D. (1991) Practical Approaches to Bullying. London:
David Fulton.
6 This has been found to be the case in large-scale studies (for example, in Norway, Sweden, England, Scotland and the Republic of Ireland) of bullying behaviour in schools. See Smith, P.K. et al. (eds) (1999)The Nature of School Bullying: A Cross- National Perspective. London: Routledge Smith, P.K. (ed.) (2003)Violence in Schools:
The Response in Europe. London: Routledge-Falmer for overviews.
7 The interested reader is recommended to refer to Robinson, G. and Maines, B. (1997) Crying for Help: the No Blame Approach to Bullying. Bristol: Lucky Duck.
8 See O’Moore, A.M. and Minton, S.J. (2003) ‘The hidden voice of bullying’ in M.
Shevlin and R. Rose (eds),Encouraging Voices: Respecting the Insights of Young People Who Have Been Marginalised. Dublin: National Disability Authority
9 See Pikas, A. (1975) ‘Treatment of mobbing in school: principles for and the results of the work of an anti-mobbing group’,Scandinavian Journal of Educational Research, 19: 1–12.
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