All praises be to Allah SWT who bestows mercy and blessings on the thesis entitled “Interpersonal communication between parents and children against Bhekalan in Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso”. well done. The purpose of this research is to find out the motive of interpersonal communication between parents and children to bhekalana at Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso. It was found that 1) the motif of interpersonal communication between parents and children applies to Bhekalana na Taman, Taman krocok, Bondowoso.
INTRODUCTION
Focus of the Research
What kind of interpersonal communication motif is used between parents and children towards Bhekalan at Taman Taman krocok Bondowoso. How is the interpersonal communication between parents and children used against Bhekalan at Taman Taman krocok Bondowoso.
Purpose of the Research
The purpose of interpersonal communication is the same as general communication purpose to share information, educate, entertain, explain and influence each other.5 The importance of interpersonal communication is provided by essential fulfillment that is not owned. The research wants to know about the decision of early marriage that takes place in the location of the research. Based on the information of al-Quran and as-Sunnah, Islamic communication is communication that makes serious efforts to build human relationships with themselves, with the creator or God and with other people.7 The presence of Islamic communication has a purpose to to lead Muslim and public.
Researcher finds 6 families in Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso, whose children have implemented bhekalan. The step involved in the process is to determine the individual sampling strategy. This analysis of data consists of the description of interpersonal communication between parents and children towards bhekalan at Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso using observation, interview and documentation. These statements are emphasized by Mrs. Dewi as a parent whose daughter has already implemented bhekalan. The daughter's name is Lilik Triana Dewi.
Miti as a parent whose daughter has already implemented bhekalan. The daughter's name is Romla. These statements indicate that interpersonal communication motive between parents and children after bhekalan, one of the causes comes from the children. Suryani as a parent who has already implemented bhekalan for the daughter twice. The daughter's name is Sughro.
Statement is revealed by Miti as a parent whose daughter has already implemented bhekalan. The daughter's name is Romla. Based on the above finding, one of the motives implemented in the study is intrinsic. According to Mead, there will be four steps of the action of interpersonal communication that are interrelated: impulse (motive), perception (understanding meaning), manipulation (arranging strategy), consumption (action).
Significance of the Research
The Definition of Key Terms
The definition of terms has a role to prevent misunderstandings about the meaning of terms, what the researcher means. So the researcher wants to know what actually is the motive of the interpersonal communication between parents and children regarding bhekalan.
Systematic of Research
Discussion of Previous Research
A similarity is the investigation of the implementation of communication in the family and the use of a qualitative research approach. While this research uses interpersonal communication theory to understand parents' motives for enabling children to engage early. While this research seeks to find out the motive of parents to allow their children to be involved in early youth, which is called as.
Theorical Review
So the process and action of interpersonal communication that occurs in society must be known to understand the meaning of the message. This step is the time to take the decision or action of the previously constructed perception. This classification is based on the level of human awareness of the motive behind the behavior.
For example, when students are studying in the classroom, there are some craftsmen busy decorating the classroom. He gets bhekalan, he just asks, both the guy and the girl have the same wish. Nurhasanah as one of the informants of this study, whose son at the age of 18 implemented bhekalan for about eight months.
She interprets that bhekalan is a bond that both parents knew about their children's relationship.
RESEARCH METHOD
The Type and Approach of Research
This research uses qualitative research and phenomenological approach to understand the phenomenon, what the subject experiences. For example behaviour, perception, motivation, action and other descriptions in the form of words and language. This type of research approach is best suited to understanding the same experience in order to develop a deeper understanding of the characteristics of the phenomenon.
While the type of this research is field research which requires the researcher to find and directly observe the field or real situation in Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso.
Location of Research
Subject Of The Research
Data Collection Techniques
An important step in the process is finding people or places to study, gaining access, and building relationships with participants so that they can provide good data. In collecting information, the researcher develops any different protocol or written form to record the information obtained. They may be insufficient data, need to quickly leave the field or search location, or lose information.
The last, the researcher decides how to store data so that data can be easily found and protected from being defective or lost. To observe means to be aware of phenomena in the field using the researcher's five senses. Researcher observed the condition of Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso and community attitude that includes parents and children who have implemented bhekalan.
These questions are open-ended, general and aimed at understanding the central phenomenon of interpersonal communication and bhekalana at Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso. These are parents, children, society and the elder of Tamana, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso, who experience and know more about the bhekalana phenomenon in this village.
Data Analysis
Validity Of Data
Steps of Research
Interpersonal communication motif applicable between parents and children towards Bhekalan at Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso. The interpersonal communication that applies between parents and children towards Bhekalan at Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso. Interpersonal communication between parents and children against bhekalan in Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso is caused by some motives.
It is supported by the parents because the parents are happy to see the children grow up and implement bhekalan. Based on the research finding, The interpersonal communication motives between parent and children come from the children's desire. Based on the research result, parents and children of Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso are communicative.
PRESENTATION AND ANALYSIS OF DATA
Analysis of Data
The motif of interpersonal communication used between parents and children for bhekalan at Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso was caused by some motifs that support children and parents in performing bhekalan. As parents who know what is for the children, they do not give decisions directly to the child's relationship. The teenagers of Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso are still active for sports every Sunday morning.
Based on the data obtained by the researcher, the interpersonal communication motive between parents and children regarding bhekalan is also caused by other motives. If long ago all decisions depended on the parents, adults or not, if the parents decided that, the children should allow it. Today the choice depends on the decision of the child, but there are still parents who believe in the saying of the ancestor since a long time ago.
The statement is also made by Mrs. Lima emphasized as one of the elders of Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso. If long ago, bhekalan was parents' decision, unlike today, parents allow what the children want, if there is someone who suggests to get bhekalan for the first time, parents should receive it because they are afraid of sangkal burung , means that for the next bhekalan will be retreat. This statement indicates that parents who have done the children bhekalan still believe in ancestral trust.
Parents also respond to children as they interpret and select the message.
Research Finding Discussion
The researcher finds two external motives that support parents to allow their children to want to do bhekalan. From these above explanations, interpersonal communication between parents and children is due to the existence of a motive. Nuhasanah's statements are supported that the interpersonal communication between parents and children to bhekalana takes place through the renunciation of self.
Interpersonal communication between parents and children against bhekalan, a two-way view of communication is used. This example is supported interpersonal communication between parents and children against bhekalan on Taman, Taman Krocok, Bondowoso uses a two-way view of communication. The interpersonal communication used by parents and children to bhekalana has several motives.
There are two tendencies that support parents to allow their children to perform bhekalan even when they are still very young. Based on the statements of some of the informants of this research, it is supported that interpersonal communication between parents and children until bhekalan takes place through self-disclosure. Interpersonal communication between parents and children against bhekalan, a two-way view of communication is used.
How is interpersonal communication between parent and child towards Bhekalan in Taman Taman krocok Bondowoso.
CONCLUSION AND SUGGESTION
Suggestion
- Natural Resource Condition
- Human Resource Condition
- Development Resource Condition
- Sosiocultural Resource Condition
Parents' understanding of the importance of education is still low, so parents have to think about the children's education. But if the trust gives useless thing, parents need not follow it. Creswell, John W, 2015, Penelitian Kualitatif en Desain Researchet: Memilih dinara lima lima keke (edisi ke-3), Yogyakarta : Pustaka Pelajar.
Nurhajati, Lestari dan Darmayanti Wardyaningrum, Komunikasi Keluarga dalam Pengambilan Keputusan Pernikahan Remaja, Jurnal, Fakultas Ilmu Komunikasi dan Ilmu Politik, Universitas Al Ahzar Indonesia. Yayasan Penyelenggara Penerjemahan Al-Qur'an, 2012, Al-Qur'an Tiga Bahasa, Depok: Al Huda (Gema Insani Group). Sebagai orang tua, hal apa saja yang mendukung Anda hingga membiarkan anak Anda melakukan bhekalan.
