N g h i e n ctiu G i a d i n h v a G i o i
So 1 - 2 0 1 1
Hon nhan cua Viet Cong giao i Giao ho Nd LUc, tinh Phu Thg
Le Dure Hanh
Vien Nghien cCru Ton giao
Tdm tat: Qua nghitin cdu trUdng hdp hdn nhan cila ngUdi Viet Cong giao d Giao ho No LUc (Phii Tho) bai viet gidi thieu ve cd sd hon nhan, cac thu tuc va nghi le hon nhan theo quy dinh ciia Giao luat Cong giao, tren cd sd dd dUa ra n h a n xet ve tfnh ben vUng ciia hon nhan Cong giao so v6i hon nhan truyen tho'ng.
Tii khoa: Hon nhan; Hon nhan Cong giao; Nghi le hon nhan.
1. Gidi thieu dja ban va mau nghien ciiru
Giao hg Nd Luc ngay nay la mdt trong 17 giao hg/giao khu ciia giao xu Nd Luc. Dia phan ciia giao xii niim tren dia ban hanh chfnh ciia 16 xa thudc huyen Tam Ndng, huyen Phil Ninh va thanh phd Viet Tri ciia tinh Phu Thg. Giao hg Nd Luc dugc ggi theo tdn lang, Nd Luc la tdn chu, Bau Ng la ten Ndm, nhung dan gian thudng ggi ten ndm va cdn dgc chdch di la Bu Ng (Vien TTKHXH, 1996, tr. 489). Giao xil cd 1.442 hg gia dinh, 5.927 giao dan. trong dd giao hg Nd Luc cd 3 xdm gdm 621 hd vdi 2.739 giao dan'".
Xii dao Nd Luc. vdi Nd Luc la hg nha xir cd qua trinh lich sir phiit trien
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khoang 400 nam '". Cdn Nd Luc dugc ggi la nha xii tir nam 1710. lay Due me Man Cdi lam thanh bdn mang. Id kinh vao 7/10 hiing nam.
Nghien cuu duge thuc hien tren 287 mlu dinh lugng, ngoai ra cac phdng va'n sau ca nhan cho cac ket qua dinh tfnh vd hdn nhan va nep sdng dao trong gia dinh ngudi Viet Cdng giao d Nd Luc.
2. Cd sd cua hon nhan Cong giao d No Lire
Cd the ndi hdn nhan cua ngudi Viet Cdng giao d Nd Luc dugc dua tren CO sd quan trgng la tinh yeu ddi lira, ciia sir tu do tim hidu nhau. Trong hdn nhan ciia ngudi Viet Cdng giao d Nd Luc khdng cd hien tugng cha me dp ga hay ngan cam con cai ket hdn. Sd di nhu vay la bdi nhiing ngudi Cdng giao Nd Luc quan niem rang ne'u dp ga hay ngan cam con cai tim hidu ban ddi, ket hdn la lam trai y 'Hiien Chua, la mac tdi trgng. Do vay, khi con cai de'n ludi trudng thanh, hg cd quyen tim hidu va yeu thuang nhau ma khdng hd bi cha me ngan cam, dp ga. Ket qua nghien cuu dinh lugng cho thay cd 89,5% nam nil hien nay lien tdi hdn nhan tren ca sd tu do tim hidu nhau.
Viec tim hieu ciia ciic ddi nam nu chii yeu dua tren nhung ddng cam vdi nhau vd tfnh each, ldi sdng, dao due va nidm tin tdn giao. Ben canh dd cung cd yeu td vd hinh thuc hay didu kien kinh te gia dinh, nhung khdng nhidu vii nhung ca sd nay khdng phai la didu kien tien quyet. Viec quyet dinh tie'n tdi hdn nhan ngay nay ciia thanh nien Nd Luc ben canh su tu do quyet dinh ciia ca nhan, cdn cd nhung tu va'n, gdp y kien ttr cae bac cha me trong hdn nhan, Kei qua dinh lugng cho thay cd 38,5% sd thanh nien Nd Luc khi dinh ket hdn cd su ddng gdp y kien vd ngudi ban ddi tir phfa cha me.
Vdi ngirdi Cdng giao Nd Luc, til khi nam nu tim hieu nhau den khi cd ldi tiinh btio vdi cha me, mdt van dd duge quan tam nhai dd la ngudi yeu eua minh cd theo dao Cdng giao khdng. Trirdng hgp mdt trong hai ngudi khdng phiii dao Cdng giao thi ddi hdi diiu lien la ngudi dd phai cai dao theo Cdng giao neu mud'n lien tdi ket hdn va dugc linh nhan bf ti'ch hdn phdi cua nha thd. Trudng hgp kien quyet khdng theo dao, vi sir tu do tdn giao ciia mdi ngirdi, thi hai ngirdi phai lam thii tuc xin tha ngdn trd hdn phdi '".Ke t qua didu tra dinh lugng tai Nd Luc cho biet cd 52% ngudi tra Idi cho rang trudc khi ket hdn neu khdng phai la ngudi Cdng giao thi budc phai theo dao. Sd cdn lai (48%) cho rang khdng bat budc theo dao nhung lay vg hoac chdng thi phiii theo, do tu nguyen chir khdng bi dp budc.
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Tra ldi cau hdi: "The'con ddu bdy gid cd theo dgo khdng?" Mdt nO giao dan cd con trai kei hdn vdi ngudi ngoai dao cho biei: "Cd did, xin theo chd, phdi tif nguyen Idm dan xin theo chit, cdn cd cung khdng bdo phdi theo. Tif nguyen yen nhau thi tif di le trUde de tim hieu, xong tif Idm dan xin vdo dgo chic cd khdng cdm tay viet. De no mang tinh chdt tinh, qua qud trinh tim hieu, anh mud'n tim hieu, mud'n sdng dgo, mudn cudc sdng sau ndy cdn phdi nhu the, chic cd cung khdng bdo phdi viet nhiC the ndo cd. Cd bdo, tif con nhdn biet nhu the ndo thi tif eon viet dan xin vdo dgo."
(PVS nQ, 48 tudi, lam rudng, ldp 6).
Viec theo dao Cdng giao ciia vg hoac chdng cd y nghia dac biet vdi nhung ngudi Viet Cdng giao Nd Luc, bdi: thd nhdt, hg dugc td chuc hdn le lai nha thd, tuc la dugc chiu bi ti'ch hdn phdi; thd hai, hg quan nidm khi hai ngudi cung mdt tdn giao thi hg ciing mdt nidm tin, ciing mdt chi hudng nen dd ddng long, hiep sue nhau trong cudc sdng vg chdng va trong giao due con cai.
3. Mot so nghi le chu yeu trong hon nhan d No Lure
3.L Cac thti tuc va nghi 1^ theo quy djnh ciia giao luat
- Hgc gido ly hon nhdn: Day la mdt trong nhirng quy dinh bat budc neu giao dan Cdng giao mud'n cir hanh hdn Id trong nha thd (Giao ly Hdi thanh Cdng giao, 1992). Thdi gian hgc giao ly hien nay keo dai khoang 3 - 4 thang vdi mdt lich hgc dugc td chuc rat phii hgp nhu hgc vao thdi gian ranh rdi trong ngay, cd the la budi tdi, cac ngay nghi, ngay thii 7 hay chu nhat khi nha xu khdng cd Id. Sau khi ket thuc chuong trinh, xii dao td chuc kidm tra kien thuc ciia nhung hgc vien, nhiing ngudi dat yeu cau dugc cap gia'y chiing nhan da hoan thanh Idp Giao ly hdn nhan.
- Tien tdi hdn nhdn: Chi sau khi cd Gia'y chiing nhan da hoan thanh ldp Giao ly hdn nhan, ddi nam nu mdi dugc phdp xin cha me den thua chuyen vdi linh muc quan xu cho hg dugc chiu phep cudi. Linh muc chi'nh xu se tie'p nhan thdng tin, yeu cau ddi nam nu thuc hien nhiing cdng viec ma Giao hdi quy dinh, dd la trinh giay chiing nhan rira tdi trong trudng hgp ngudi nam hay ngudi nir d mdt xir dao khac; hoac yeu cau chuiin bi chiu phdp rira neu mdt trong hai ngudi ngoai dao nay mud'n dugc chiu phep rua tai giao xil Nd Luc. Tiep theo, linh muc cho ngudi tin can di dieu tra vd hai ngu'di dd nghi dugc kei hdn nay. Ngudi dugc iiy nhidm se den nai hai ngudi sinh sdng de didu tra ve tinh trang hdn nhan, gia dinh va ban than
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ngudi se ket hdn de xem hg cd vudng ngan trd gi so vdi quy dinh cua luat Hdi thanh hay Lual phap hay khdng? Viec didu tra hdn phdi ddi hdi phai cd gia'y td xac minh vd ngudi dinh ket hdn, trong dd ghi rd ten thanh, hg ten ddi; hg ten cha me, dia chi va quan trgng nhai la phai xac nhan khdng bi ngan trd bdi quy dinh cua giao luat. Trudng hgp cd ngan trd hdn nhan phai cd Td tha ngdn trd hdn phdi theo quy dinh cua Giao luat.
Sau dd, linh muc giao cho dai dien Ban hanh giao xii, thudng la Ban muc vu hdn nhan phu trach, rao hdn phdi lai nha thd trudc loan the cdng doan dan Chua. Viec rao hdn phdi dugc thuc hien trudc loan thd ba con giao dan trong 3 thanh Id lien tie'p (tuc khoang 3 tuan). Ndi dung rao hdn phdi phai ndi id ai dinh ket hdn vdi ai, giao dan nao biet cudc hdn nhan nay cd bat ky ngan trd gi thi phai thdng bao cho ngudi cd trach nhiem, thudng la linh muc hay mgt ngudi trong Ban hanh giao. Sau thdi gian rao hdn phdi, neu khdng cd ngan trd gi thi ddi nam nu se dugc lam phdp hdn phdi tai nha thd.
Giao hdi Cdng giao quy dinh, chi khi hdn nhan dugc cir hiinh trong thanh Id theo the thuc cua Hdi thanh thi hdn nhan dd mdi dugc coi la thanh su. Giao hdi cQng quy dinh hdn le cdn phai dugc cil hanh tai nha thd giao xu, noi mdt trong hai ngudi kei hdn cd chd thu'd'ng tru, hoac tam tru tdi thidu 1 thang trd len (Bd Giao luat, 1983, tr.lll8).
- Nghi thdc bi tich hdn phdi: Trong nghi thue Hdn phdi, bat budc phai trai qua cac phan ca ban nhu thiim van ddi tan hdn, trao ddi ldi thd hiia, lam phep nhan va trao nhan cudi. Ngoai ra cdn ed nghi thuc diiu le va nghi thirc cudi Id. Dudi day la trinh tu ciia mdt thanh le hdn phdi d nha thd Nd Luc.
Trudc khi tien hanh nghi thuc hdn phdi, cac ddi sap kei hdn diing xep hang Cling cha me va nhiing ngudi lam chung dgi d cila nha thd. Vi day la thanh le mang y nghia dac biet ddi vdi cac ddi tan hdn va gia dinh ciia hg, nen khdng chi cac ddi uyen uang ma mgi ngudi tham du ddu an mac trang trgng, dep de. Chti re thudng mac ao trang ben trong va comple d ngoai, cdn cd dau mac ao dai truydn thdng cai hoa tren nguc \'a dm 1 bd hoa dep tren tay. Quan sat thuc techo thay hau nhu cac cd dau khdng mac vay cudi khi thue hien thanh Id hdn phdi tai nha thd. Mdt sd ban nu dugc hdi da cho ling vi didu kien kinh le khd khan khdng the thue vay cudi hai liin nen chi mac ao dai truydn thdng khi cil hanh d nha thd, den ngay nha trai rude dau thi mdi mac vay cudi. Mdt sd khac lai cho biet do quan niem kidng mac vay cudi hai liin trong ddi dd the hien Idng chung thiiy va tranh didu bai
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hanh xay ra vdi cudc hdn nhan ciia minh, ndn chi den ngay ddn dau mdi mac vay cudi.
"Em khdng mdc vdy cicdi d nhd thd vi hdm cudi em se phdi mdc, ne'u ngdy cudi khdng cd vdy thi ngiCdi ta che. Md ai Igi di mdc vdy cUdi hai Idn chu. ngudi Viet minh vdn kieng nhu the md" (PVS, nu 26 tudi, cdng nhan, ldp 9).
Den gid hanh Id, linh muc va nhung ngu'di giup Id di til tren Cung thanh xudng cira nha thd, rude cac ddi tan hdn len nhiing hang ghe' dau cua nha thd de du thanh Id. Ngay sau dd, nhirng nghi thii'c dau Id dugc tien hanh.
Day la nghi thiic "chao chuc", "dSn Id" dugc quy dinh bat budc trong thanh Id, dd la ldi Chao va Chuc giil'a linh muc chu te va cdng doan giao dan, ciing bai Phiic Am va bai giang. Tiep theo, nghi thuc hdn phdi chi'nh thi'rc dugc lien hanh gdm 3 phan, la: tham van ddi tan hdn, trao ddi ldi thd hua va lam phdp va trao nhan cudi.
- Phdn 1. Thdm vdn ddi tdn hdn: Linh muc chti tetay cam Kinh thanh, dung tren Cung thanh. ddi tan hdn dung dudi cung thanh, cting 2 ngudi lam chirng, ddi dien giin linh muc de tra ldi tham van va tuyen xung Idi the hua trudc Thien Chua va cdng doan giao dan. Trong phan tham van nay, linh muc ndi nhung ldi ca nggi 'Thien Chua, ca nggi tinh yeu cila cac cap tan hdn, diic biet linh muc chii te phai hdi tii'ng ddi tan hdn 3 cau hdi.
Cau thil nhai ndi ve viee ddi nam nu cd thuc su tu do tim hidu va ket hdn hay bi dp budc? Cau thii hai hdi vd su san sang yeu thuang, chung thily, tdn trgng ban ddi trong cudc sdng gia dinh? Cudi cung linh muc hdi ddi tan hdn vd viec cd sSn sang ddn nhan con cai nhu mdt hdng an cua Thien Chiia va cd san sang giao due chiing theo Giao luat Cdng giao hay khdng?
Trong 3 cau hdi nay, linh muc chil tephai hdi cac cau hdi rieng re, tiing ngudi trong ddi tan hdn phai tra ldi xong mdi hdi sang cau khac. Sau dd chuydn sang phiin thir hai la eac ddi tan hdn trao ddi ldi thd hua trudc Thien Chua va cdng doan giao dan.
- Phdn 2. Trao ddi ldi the hua: Ddi nam nu diing quay mat ddi dien nhau, ciim lay nhau va ndi len ldi thd hua cua minh vdi ngudi ban ddi. Ldi the hua phai dugc ndi lo, rd rang vdi cac ndi dung chinh nhu ten thanh va hg ten ddi ciia ngirdi ban ddi va hua giu long chung thiiy, yeu thuang, tdn trgng vg/chdng trong bai kd hoan canh nao, khi khde manh hay liic dau dm, khi gian nan hay liic thinh vugng, sau dd linh muc chii le cau xin Thien Chiia xiic nhan su ung thuiin cua ddi tan hdn va ddng thdi nhic nhd ho vd
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SU lien kei cua Thien Chua, khdng dugc phep phan ly sau khi da kei hdn.
- Phdn 3. Ldm phep nhdn: Sau Idi thd hua, ddi nam nil quay mat vd phfa linh muc chu te dd dng lam phdp nhan cho hg. Nhin cudi dugc chuain bi do cd dau chu re dua trudc hoac dua ngay luc dd cho nhung ngudi giiip Id. Nhan cudi dugc dat len mdt chiec khay cd phii khan do nhu'ng ngudi giup le be. Linh muc vay nudc thanh va lam dau thanh gia len cap nhin ddng thdi ndi Idi cau mong Thien Chua chuc phuc cho nhung chide nhin - bang chung cila tinh yeu va su chung thuy. Sau dd ddi tan hdn deo nhin cudi vao tay ngu'di ban ddi cua minh va ndi vd viec nhan chide nhin dd lam bang chung eho linh yeu va Idng chung thiiy cua hg. Tiep theo, ddi tan hdn dat tay nhau ciing hai ngudi lam chung trd vd hang ghe dau dd tidp tuc chung kie'n cac nghi thirc cua nhirng cap hdn nhan khac va tiep tuc du thanh le.
Tie'p dd la nghi thue Tuyen bd tan hdn. Cdng doan giao dan thip nen hiep nhai. Linh muc luc nay da trd lai Ban te cung nhung ngudi giiip viec dd luyen bd su hgp nha't trong hdn nhan ciia ddi tan hdn.
Thanh le tiep tuc vdi phan dgc kinh cua cdng doan giiio dan, thdng thudng kinh Lay Cha dugc xudng len de cdng doan cung dgc. Tie'p theo la Ldi nguyen giao dan cau chiic cho hanh phiic cila cae ddi tan hdn. Day la nhiing ldi nguyen dac biet danh cho cac ddi tan hdn. Cdng doan khan cau Thien Chua ban day an siing va phue ldc eho ddi Uin hdn dd ban than hg dugc thanh thien va hanh phiic, gia dinh hg dugc hda thuan va bdn vung.
Tie'p theo la phan Phung vu thanh the do linh mue cir hanh. Phan nay gdm dang biinh, rucyu va cdng doan cung dgc kinh Tien lung le hdn phdi;
nghi thuc hiep Id va Ldi Nguyen chuc mung ddi tan hdn. Cudi cung Linh muc lam Phep liinh cho ddi tan hdn va Thiinh le hdn phdi. cdng doan chiu Le (chiu Minh Thanh Chiia).
Sau khi thanh le kei thuc, ddi tan hdn, hai ngudi lam chung va linh muc ciing ky ten vao Sd Hdn phdi. Sd nay dugc luu trong van khd cila giao xir.
3.2. Cac thu tuc, nghi Id hdn nhan truyen thdng
Dii la ngudi Cdng giao, da lam phep cudi trong nha thd, da chi'nh thi'rc nen vg nen chdng dugc Giao hdi va toan thd cdng doan dan Chiia xac thuc nhirng ngudi dan d Nd Luc cdn trai qua nhung thu tuc phiii cd ciia xa hgi nhu dang ky ket hdn de dugc phap luat IhiVd nhan; hoac ciic anh hudng khdng biit budc nhu cac nghi Id. thu tuc kei hdn theo truydn thd'ng. Thii
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luc budc phai cd vdi cac cap nam nil trudc khi chinh thiic lam phep cudi tai nha thd dd la viec dang ky ket hdn vd mat dan sir, bdi til lau Giao hdi Cdng giao budc cac tin dd cua minh phai cd giay dang ky ket hdn thi mdi cho phep chiu bf tich Hdn phdi trong nha thd (Giao ly Hgi thanh Cdng giao, 1992). Dd cQng la le duang nhien ciia con ngudi, bdi dii hg la tin dd Cdng giao hay tin dd mdt tdn giao nao khac thi hg vin la cdng dan ciia mdt Nha nudc cd chil quydn - Nha nudc Cdng hda Xa hdi Chii nghia Viet Nam. Va, khi la cdng dan ciia mdt nudc hg phai chap hanh nhCrng quy dinh cua Phap luat (Luat Hdn nhan va Gia dinh, 2000).
Sau khi cd Gia'y Chiing nhan ket hdn, thdng thudng ca ngudi nam va ngudi ntr ddu chuiin bi xung ldi, dgn minh de ddn nhan thanh le Hdn phdi, mdt thanh Id mang y nghia dac biet quan trgng dd'i vdi ban than mdi ngudi Cdng giao Nd Luc.
Ngoai ra, ngudi dan d Nd Luc cung cd cac thii tuc cudi theo truyen thdng nhu dam ngd, an hdi, ddn/dua dau nhu ngudi Viet khdng theo dao Cdng giao trong vCing.
4. Ket luan
Hdn nhan Cdng giao cd lich sir lau dai va da dang d tiing cdng ddng va mdi tdc ngudi, dugc hinh thanh tir nhiing lap tuc xa hdi va dan chuyen thanh nhung nghi Id va qui dinh ciia luat Hdi thanh Cdng giao, qua qua trinh phat tridn dan dugc hoan thien dd trd thanh mdt trong bay Bi tich cua dao Cdng giao. Tuy vay, nhiing qui dinh ciia Giao lual Cdng giao khdng phu nhan cac qui dinh cua phap luat Nha nudc va cac tap tuc, nghi Id truydn thd'ng dan tdc, ma mdt phin cac thu tuc, nghi Id truydn thdng quan trgng nay vin tiep tuc song hanh vdi nep sdng dao, dugc Giao hdi va tin dd ton trgng, thuc hien.
Dac diem co ban trong hdn nhan Cdng giao la viec ngudi tin dd tuan thu nghiem ngat quy dinh ciia Giao luat vd hdn nhan. De bao ve hanh phuc gia dinh va tinh yeu ddi lua, dao Cdng giao dd cao hdn nhan cua ngudi tin dd vdi hinh anh Chiia Giesu va Hdi thanh, do vay hdn nhan Cdng giao la
"dan nhai va bai kha phan ly" (Giao ly Hdi thanh Cdng giao, 1992, tr. 21- 22; Bd Giao lual, 1983, tr. 1056). Giao luat Cdng giao cung dua ra nhiing quy dinh vd ngan trd kei hdn vdi tin dd ciia minh, cac ngan trd nay cd nhidu didm tuang ddng vdi nhirng ngan cam ket hdn do Luat Hdn nhan va Gia dinh cua Nha nudc qui dinh, nhim bao ve hanh phuc gia dinh ndi
Le Diic Hanh 29 rieng, su phat trien ciia gidng ndi va xa hdi ndi chung.
Diem khac biet co ban trong cac tap tuc va nghi Id ket hdn cua ngudi Viet Cdng giao vdi cac tap tuc va nghi Id cudi xin truydn thd'ng cua ngudi Viet khdng Cdng giao d Nd Luc la thanh Id td chile trong nha thd dugc thieng hda va cd y nghia dac biet quan trgng, trinh tu eiia hdn Id dugc quy dinh chat che bdi chinh Giao luat Cdng giao, dac biet nhiing quy dinh nay mang ti'nh dn dinh cao va duge luan thu nghiem ngat, rat ft su thay ddi trii khi dugc phep cua Hdi ddng Giam muc Viet Nam'"' nhim bao ve Igi ich ciia giao dan va cua dao Cdng giao. Dao Cdng giao khuyen khich tin dd cua minh tuan thii day du cac qui dinh ciia Luat phap vd viec dang ky ket hdn, tudi ket hdn... nhung khdng bit budc cac tin dd cua minh phai thuc hien cac tap tuc va nghi thuc hdn nhan truydn thd'ng. Ddi vdi cac tap tuc va nghi thuc hdn nhan truydn thdng, luy theo didu kien cua gia dinh giao dan ma thuc hien cho phu hgp vdi nep sdng d dia phuang.
Nghien ciru vd hdn nhan Cdng giao d Nd Luc cho thay: Giao hdi Cdng giao dd ra nhil'ng quy dinh bit budc tin dd ciia minh phai tin theo nhim bao ve Igi fch ciia dao, sau dd li bio ve Igi ich ciia cac "Hdi thinh lai gia", tuc la cic gia dinh Cdng giao. Cic sd lieu thu thap duge ttr xu dao Nd Luc cho tha'y hdn nhan cua ngudi Viet Cdng giao cd tfnh bdn vung han hdn nhan eua ngudi khdng Cdng giao. Ty le ly than, ly di d ngudi Viet Cdng giio Nd Luc rai it: trong 10 nam trd lai day chi cd 1 trudng hgp ly di, 2 trudng hgp sdng ly than (da dugc hoa giii vd chung sdng vdi nhau), chung td su bdn vu'ng ciia hdn nhan Cdng giio'^'. Cung qua phdng van cac hg gia dinh, nhung chirc viec tdn giao chiing tdi dugc biei: trong cac gia dinh Cdng giao cd hien tugng vg chdng mau thuin, xich mfch nhau nhung vd CO bin cic mau thuin dd thudng dugc giai quyet trong su bao dung tha thu tren tinh than giao due cua Giao hdi vd su vi tha ddi vdi vg/chdng khi cd ldi lam. Day cd thd li nhiing ly do khien ngiy cang nhidu ngudi ngoai dao kei hdn vdi ngirdi Cdng giao dd bio dim tfnh bdn vOng ciia gia dinh khi ma ty Id ly di d cac gia dinh Viet Nam ngiy mdt tang"^'.B
Chii thich
'"So lieu do ong Dinh Quang Toan - Trudng ban Hanh giao, giao xu N6 Luc cung cap thang 10 nam 2009.
''' Ngay 7/10/2009 Giao xu Nd Luc da duoc chinh quyen cho phep to chiic ky niem 410 nam "Don nhan Tin mung", tuc thoi didm 1599. Day la thdi didm dugc linh muc Giuse Nguydn Van Dinh - linh muc chinh xu (2004 - 2008) thd'ng nhai
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chon lam nam chfnh thuc ddn nhan Tin Mung cua xu dao.
'^'Tai xu dao Nd Luc da co nhidu trudng hgp ngudi ngoai dao mudn kei hon vdi ngudi Cdng giao da phai xin thii tuc "tha ngau trd khde dgo " dd hdn Id dugc thanh sir, hoac ft nhai phai lam cam ket khong ngan can diic tin ciia ngudi vg/chdng sau khi ket hon, phai cho con rira tgi theo dao Cdng giao. Tfnh tu nam
1933 de'n nay, giao xir NO Luc co 2.090 ngudi lam phep cudi tai nha thd. Tfnh rieng tu 22/10/1998 den 31/5/2010 cd 150 nam tan long va 186 nutan tdng, trong so nay, co 24 trudng hgp phai xin thii tuc "tha ngdn trd khde dgo ", chiem 7% (Sd Hdn phdi, Tai lieu luu trir tai xu dao N6 Luc tu 1933 den 2010). Day la nhung ngudi ket hdn vdi giao dan Cdng giao nhung cuong quyet khdng theo dao. Trong thil tuc "xin tha ngdn trd khde dgo" ho deu phai cam ket "sdng chung thiiy mgt vg mgt chong, phai d vdi nhau cho den chet, khdng dugc bd ban cdn sdng ma di lay ngudi khac". Ngugc lai, trong nhUng trudng hgp nay, cd dau hay chU re la giao dan cung phai cam doan "tranh mgi nguy hidm lam cho minh mai due tin, cam doan se rira tgi va day dd con cai trong Hgi thanh Cdng giao" (Theo Gidy cam doan khi xin tha ngdn trd khac dao tai .xu dao Nd Life).
'•" Nghi thiic cir hiinh hon nhan dugc Hgi ddng Giam muc Viet Nam sira chira va cd hieu luc chinh thuc tu 12/4/2009, trong do cd nhung thay ddi nhu bd qua hdnh dgng thdng hdi:... khong dugc ky sd hon phdi tren bdn thd:
'" Mgt bao cao d Ha Ngi cho biet mdi nam thanh phd cd 20.000 vu ket hon thi cd 4.500 \'ii ly hon. Trong khi do, d xa Hai Van, Hai Hau, Nam Dinh co 6.000 dan tu nam 1980 den nam 2000 chi co 2 ddi bo nhau. Xu Sd Ha (Ha Ngi) cd 1500 giao dan mil tu nam 1945 den nay chi co 1 doi ly than (Vien Nghien cuu Ton giao, 2009). (Didm nghien ciru la mgt giao hg Cdng giao, khdng cd gia dinh ngoai dao. Do vay, khong co ket qua ve sd vu ly hon ciia gia dinh khdng theo Cong giao trong Giiio hg No Luc).
"•' Theo thdng ke ciia Giao hgi Cong giao nam 2007 co 67.780 ngudi khac dao da gia nhap dao Cong giao do ket hon vdi giao diin (Vien Nghien cuu Tdn giao.
9/2009).
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