Relational harmony, which "images" the relational harmony of the trinity, was part of the design from the beginning. However, Genesis 2:18 says, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.
Pride, Control, and Self-Righteous Unbelief
John Calvin interprets "you will be like God" as Satan promising them "divinity", and that the ban on the tree of knowledge. God's very own motives or character become the core of the snake debates with Eve.
Hiding in Fearful Disconnection and Shame
As Kenneth Mathews put it, "They achieved isolation and fear."56 The Fall overturned God's created order of complete perfection and goodness. Calvin assumes the ending of this scene: "Being covered with their garments, they spent the night in silence and the silence of darkness."57 The silence of interruption and death became a way of life.
Blame-Shifting: The Denial of Responsibility
Notice Adam's words, "The woman you put here with me." The Lord calls Adam to reveal his heart. Adam also adds qualifying words about "the woman you put here." Calvin notes that Adam "at the same time brings an accusation against God; against that the wife who had brought him ruin had been given by God."58 It is as if Adam defied saying: "If you had not brought her into my life, I would not be here today.
The Atmosphere of Defensiveness, Bitterness,
It will crouch in the crevices of the soul and slowly destroy us from the inside. This word picture gives an example of how leadership works in the life of the husband and wife. The maturity and process of marriage is the result of the loving union between man and woman.
Keller explains: "The goal is to see something absolutely ravishing that God does for the beloved. Rosenau.11 I briefly gave a summary of the book and some of the concepts in the introduction. The majority of the participants answered that the man must lead or provide ( 36) and love his wife (16).
The answers for the role of the woman were grouped in the idea of nurturing or helping (23) and loving, supporting or respecting (18). He is the author of the book, Embracing Love: Living on the Other Side of Disconnected Relationships.
Embracing the Cost of Covenantal Love
My heart is a factory of idols and my mind a factory of excuses, especially when it comes to dealing with the kind of sin that hurts me the most—internal sin—the relentless, ever-present kind that never takes a Sabbath. The LORD your God chose you out of all the peoples on the face of the earth to be his people, his precious possession. 7 The LORD did not love you and did not choose you because you were more numerous than other peoples, because you were the fewest of all peoples. Shame is the deep humiliation that, if you were true to your soul to another, you would be exposed as a complete failure, ugly, or mistake.
Silence is the act and attitude of not saying anything about your feelings, which actually makes the other person uncomfortable because they don't understand the truth of the situation. Sniper attacks are manipulations, setups or distortions of the truth by gaining alliances to make others take the blame for our actions. Timothy Keller says, "The enemy of marriage is self-centeredness!" If you were to think about your daily life, how selfish are you in you.
Which of the six communication tactics listed above do you typically use with your spouse?
Friendship: Let Me Love You
What is friendship?
I look inside you, confirm this part of you, and in return I become a blessing deep within your soul.
Becoming One Flesh- Like-minded in Unity and Purpose
Patience: I have fair stamina by exuding calmness to others or positively waiting for situations to come to fruition. I can disappoint you or you can get hurt for a season, but this is much better than living in isolation. My partner pushes me to think outside of myself and the way I do things on a regular basis.
I am forced to think, work and consider another person's perspective, feelings and thoughts different from my own. The agreement is an act of worship to God (or reverence for Christ), which then serves the other party. If it doesn't, then go back and negotiate again until you both find a balance and a place that works.
The Healing Power of Redeeming Friendship
The Healing Power of Story a. Messages from the Playgrounds
Nurture allows you to heal your spouse’s story
Honoring another becomes an act of giving them a place to be known without judgment or condemnation, even if or when they are different from us. Integrity is the ability to be consistent in our actions, holding fast to our beliefs despite adversity. Respect is the ability to respond to others with appreciation, even if we disagree with their thoughts, decisions and/or lifestyle.
Empathy is the ability to feel the complexities of another's heart without experiencing his or her circumstances. It's the feeling of going beyond yourself and including the other person in their story at that very moment. There will be pain, sacrificial pain, because now God is doing a work in us to "love one another as Christ loved the church." It doesn't come naturally.
Sometimes there will be pain in doing so, but that is the pain of learning to love as God loves.
The Cleansing Power of Adversity: Conflict is a Pathway to Maturity
What is a new way of understanding conflict?
Conflict involves expressing our dissatisfaction with something in the relationship that we feel needs to be changed. It involves situations that need to be explained, expectations that need to be clarified, or feelings that need to be expressed. The first attitude is proclaimed by David when he declared that the Lord "delivers (his) soul in safety". Psalm 55:18. The Lord answers) 5 “Look at the nations and behold—and be utterly amazed.
Conflict involves a complaint from a person or party when they feel that two opposites are constantly meeting. This gives both parties the opportunity to learn and grow in the maturation of character, changing deeper motivations/patterns and challenges in a way that will leave us utterly amazed at the power of God. In essence, conflict or adversity is a tool God uses to lead us to the end of ourselves and dependence on him.
You are foolish not to take the opportunity to learn and grow from adversity and use it as valuable experience.
How to resolve and redeem our inner and outer conflicts?
CONFESSION
Living in Gospel Repentance
- Recognize the depth of your brokenness with God
- Reveal the truth of your selfishness
- Rearrangement of Inner Direction: A turning toward a new life
- Restorative nature of love—teaching others about God’s grace
Repentance is a broken heart that continually turns away from old patterns, confesses hurtful attitudes, and changes one's motivations and behavior toward holiness. One cannot repent unless one is broken, and one cannot be broken unless one repents." Embracing Love, p. 51:1 Have mercy on me, O God, according to your steadfast love! according to your great mercy wipe out my violations.
51:6 Truly, you desire truth within; you teach me wisdom in the deepest place. 8 Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones that you have broken rejoice. 9 Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. 10 Create for me a pure heart, O God, and renew a firm spirit within me. 11 Do not reject me from your face or take your Holy Spirit away from me: 12 Give me back the joy of your salvation and give me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways, and sinners will return to you. 14 Save me from bloodguilt, O God, the God who saves me, and my tongue will sing of your righteousness. 15 O Lord, open my lips and my mouth will declare your praise.:16 You do not delight in sacrifice, otherwise I will bring it, do not delight in burnt offerings. 17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.
The Seven Tenacious Grips of Forgiveness
It's often safe to dwell on our past hurts because it gives us a reason to act foolishly. It is the dessert of the relationship because of the candle meal of relational intimacy. It is the culmination of cooking a gospel-centered meal through relational engagement, discovery, individual spirituality, and learning to be grace-centered in our relationships.
It is not to say to the woman, "Your body is mine, give it to me." Rather, it is to say, “My body is yours. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongdoing. Because it is said: "The two will become one flesh."17 But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
Principle #5 It is important to understand that in the sexual relationship there is both Godly submission or other-centeredness and healthy sexual self-orientation.
Demographic information
Background of Marriage
Biblical Knowledge of Marriage
Relational Marriage Patterns
TEST: PAIRED TWO SAMPLE FOR MEANS RESULTS
Confidence that Freedom members received theologically faithful diet. The thesis in the lesson is clear. Steve presented the material not as a perfectionist but as a fellow sinner pointing us to the grace found in Jesus. Steve did a great job of getting to the root of the problems we face in marriage which mutually leads to a better fruitful life.
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