UDGMENT

Youcandie

from

^{someoneelse’s}

mimy—emotizmal

^states

are as

infections

^as diseases. I/bu may

jiael

you ^me

help ing

^the

drowning

^man but you ^are

071532 precipitating

your^owndisaster The

unfortunate

^{sometimesdraw mis-}

fortune

^on

themselves; they

^{will alsodraw iton}you. ^As-

sociatewiththe

happy andfmtvmate

^instead.

TRANSGRESSION OFTHE LAW

Born in

Limerick, Ireland,

ⁱⁿ 1813, Marie Gilbert came to Paris in the 18405 to make her fortune as a dancer and

performer. Taking

^{the name}

LolaMontez

(her

^{motherwas of distant}

Spanish descent),

she claimed to

beaflamenco dancer from

Spain. By

^{1845 hercareer was}

languishing,

^and

to surviveshe became a

courtesa.n—-quicldy

^{oneof themoresuccessfulin}

Paris.

Only

^{one man could}

salvage

^Lola’s

dancing

^{career: Alexandre Du-}

jaxier,

^owner of the newspaper ^{with the}

largest

circulationin

France,

^and also the

newspaper’s

^dramacritic.She decided towoo and conquer him.

Investigating

^his

^habits,

she discovered that hewent

riding

every

morning.

Anexcellent horsewoman

herself,

^{she rodeoutone}

morning

and “acciden~

tally”

^{ranintohim. Soon}

they

^were

riding together

every

day.

A few weeks laterLolamovedintohis

apartment.

Fora while thetwo were

happy together.

^With

Duja.rier’s help,

^Lola

began

^{torevive her}

dancing

^career.

Despite

^{therisktohissocial}

standing, Dujarier

told friends he would marry her ⁱⁿ the

spring. (Lola

^{had never}

told him that she had

eloped

^atage nineteenwithan

Englishman,

^andwas

still

legally married.) Although Dujarier

^was

deeply

ⁱⁿ

^love,

his life started

toslide downhill.

His fortunesinbusiness

changed

^andinfluentialfriends

began

^toavoid

him. One

night Dujarier

^{wasinvited to a}

party,

^attended

by

^{someof the}

wealthiest young^{men in} Paris. Lola wanted to go ^{too but} he would not allowit.

They

had their first

quarrel,

^and

Dujarier

^attendedthe

party by

himself.

There, hopelessly ^drunk,

be insultedan influential dramacritic,

jean-Baptiste

Rosemond de

Beauvallon, perhaps

^{because of}

something

^the

critichad said about Lola. The

following morning

^Beauvallon

challenged

himto aduel. Beauvallonwas one ofthe best

pistol

^shotsin France. Du-

jarier

^{tried to}

apologize,

but the duel took

place,

^{and he was shot and}

killed. Thus ended the life ofone of the most

promising

young ^{men of} Paris

society. Devastated,

Lola left Paris.

In 1846 Lola. Montez found herselfin

Munich,

where she decided to wooand conquer

King Ludwig

of Bavaria. Thebest_way^to

Ludwig,

^she

discovered,

^was

through

^his

aide-de-camp,

^{Count Otto Von}

Rechberg,

^a

manwithafondness for

pretty girls.

^One

day

^{when thecountwasbreak-}

fastirig

^{atanoutdoor cafe,Lola rode}

by

^onher

^horse,

^was

“accidentally”

thrown from the

saddle,

^andlandedat

Rechberg’s

^{feet. Thecountrushed}

to

help

^{herandwasenchanted.He}

promised

^tointroduce herto

Ludwig.

Rechberg arranged

^anaudience with the

king

^for

^Lola,

^butwhenshe

arrivedinthe anteroom, she could hear the

king saying

^hewastoo

busy

^to

meeta

favorseeking stranger.

^Lola

pushed

^{aside the sentries andentered}

hisroom anyway. In theprocess,thefrontof her dress somehowgot^torn

(perhaps by ^her, perhaps by

^{oneof the}

sentries),

^andtothe astonishment of

all,

^most

especially

^the

king,

her bare breastswere

brazenly exposed.

^Lola

was

granted

^heraudience with

Ludwig. Fifty—five

^hourslatershe made her debut^onthe Bavarianstage;^{thereviewswere}

terrible,

^{butthatdidnot}stop

Ludwig

^from

arranging

^more

performances.

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Ludwig

^{was, in his own}

^words,

“bewitched”

by

^{Lola. He started}

toappearⁱⁿ

public

^{with heronhisarm,}and then he

bought

and furnished

an

apartment

^{for heron one}of Munich’s^mostfashionable boulevards. Al»

though

^{he had been known as a miser, and was not}

given

^to

flights

^of

fancy,

^{he startedtoshowerLola with andtowrite}

poetry

^{for her.Now}

his favoredmistress,^she

catapulted

^tofameand fortune

overnight.

Lola

began

^{tolose hersenseof}

proportion.

^One

day

^{when shewasout}

riding,

^an

elderly

^manrode ahead of

her,

^abittoo

slowly

^{for her}

liking.

Unableto pass

him,

^she

began

^to slash him with her

riding

crop. ^{On an-} otheroccasion she took her

dog, ^unleashed,

^{out fora} stroll. The

dog

^at»

tacked a

passerby,

^{but instead of}

helping

^{the men} get ^the

dog

away, she

whipped

^{himwith the}leash. Incidents like this infuriated thestolidcitizens of

Bavaria,

^but

Ludwig

^stood

by

^{Lola andeven} had her naturalized^{as a} Bavariancitizen.The

kings entourage

^{triedtowake himtothe}

dangers

^of

the

affair,

but those who criticized Lola^were

summarily

^fired.

While Bavarians who had loved their

king

^now

outwardly

^disre—

spected him,

^Lolawasmadeacountess, had^{a new}

palace

^{built forherself,}

and

began

^{to dabble in}

politics, advising Ludwig

^on

policy.

^{She was the}

most

powerful

^{force in the}

kingdom.

Her influence in the

king’s

^cabinet

continued togrow, and she treated the other^ministers with disdain. Asa

result,

^riotsbrokeout

throughout

^{the realm.Aonce}

peaceful

^landwasvir~

rually

^{in the}

grip

^{of civil war,} and students

everywhere

^were

chanting,

“Raus mitLola!”

By February

^of1848,

Ludwig

^was

finally

^unabletowithstand the_pres-

sure. Withgreat^{sadness he} ordered Lola. to leave Bavaria

immediately.

She

left,

^{butnotuntilshewas}

paid

^{off.For thenextfive weekstheBevan‘-}

ans’wrathwasturned

against

^their

formerly

^beloved

king.

In March of that year^hewasforcedtoabdicate.

Lola Montez movedto

England.

^Morethan

anything

^sheneededre-

spectability,

^and

despite being

^married

(she

^{still hadnot}

arranged

^adivorce

from the

Englishman

she had wed years

before),

^{she set her}

sights

^on

George

^Trafford

^Heald,

^a

promising

youngarmyolficer who^wasthesonof

aninfluential hamster.

Although

^hewasten years younger than

Lola,

and could have chosenawife among the

prettiest

and wealthiest young

girls

^of

English society,

Heald fell under her

spell. They

^{were marriedin 1849.}

Soon arrested on the

charge

^of

bigamy,

^she

skipped ^bail,

and she and Heald madetheirway^to

Spain. They quarreled horribly

^andon one occa- sionLolaslashedhim witha.knife.

Finally,

^{she drove}him away.

Returning

to

England,

he found he had lost his

position

ⁱⁿthe army. Ostracized from

English society,

^hemovedto

Portugal,

where he livedin

poverty.

^{After a}

fewmonths his short life ended^ina

boating

^accident.

A few years^{later the man} who

published

Lola Montez’s

autobiogra- phy

^went

bankrupt

In 1853 Lola movedto

California,

^{whereshemetandmarriedaman} named PatHull. Their

relationship

^{was as}stormy^asallthe

others,

^andshe left Hull for anotherman.He tooktodrink and fellinto^a

deep depression

thatlasted untilhe

died,

^fouryears

later,

^stilla

relatively

young^man.

At the age of

forty—one,

^Lolagave away her clothes and

finery

^and

turnedtoGod. She toured

America, lecturing

^on

religious topics,

^dressed

inwhiteand

wearing

^{ahalolikewhite}

headgear.

^{She diedtwo}years

later,

ⁱⁿ 1861.

Interpretation

Lola Montez attractedmenwith her

wiles,

but her power^overthemwent

beyond

the sexual. It^was

through

the force of her character that she

kept

her lovers enthralled.Men^weresuckedintothe maelstrom she churned up around her.

They

^felt

confused, upset,

^{but the}

strength

^{of theemotionsshe}

stirred also made them feelmorealive.

Asisoften the^casewith

infection,

^the

problems

^would

only

^ariseover

time. Lola’s inherent

instability

^would

begin

^togetunder her lovers’ skin.

They

would find themselvesdrawn into her

problems,

but their emotional attachmenttoher would make themwant to

help

^{her. Thiswas}the crucial

point

of the clisease--for Lola Montez couldnotbe

helped.

^Her

problems

weretoo

deep.

^Oncethelover identified with

them,

^{hewaslost. Hewould} find himself embroiledin

quarrels.

The infection would

spread

^{tohis fam-}

ily

^and

^friends,

^{or, inthecaseof}

Ludwig,

^toanentire nation.The

only

^so

lution would betocuther

off,

^{orsulleraneventual}

collapse.

The

infecting-character type

^{isnotrestrictedtowomen;ithas}

nothing

todo with

gender.

^{Itstemsfromaninward}

instability

that radiates

outward, drawing

disaster upon itself. There^isalmostadesireto

destroy

^andunset

tle. You could

spend

^alifetime

studying

^the

pathology

^of

infecting

^charac-

ters, but don’t ^waste _your

time—just

learn the lesson.When _you

suspect

you^areinthe presence^ofan

infector,

don’t argue, don’t

try

^to

help,

^don’t

pass the person^ontoyour

friends,

^oryou willbecomeenmeshed. Flee the ix1fector’s presence ^orsuffer the consequences.

Yami Cassiushasalean andhungry^{look. Hethinkstoomuch. . . .}

IdonotknowthemanIshould avoidso soon asthatspare^{Cassius,. . r} Suchmen ashe heneveratheart iseasewhile:

they

^beholdagreater

thanthemselves, andtherefore^aretheyvery

dangmusv

Julius^{Caesar. William}.5’/mlms/Morn, ^I564-I616

KEYS TO POWER

Those misfortunates among^uswho have been

brought

^down

by

^circum-

stances

beyond

their control deserve all the

help

^and

sympathy

^{we can}

give

them. But there^areotherswho^arenotborntomisfortuneor

unhappi~

ness,butwho draw_{it upon}themselves

by

their destructiveactionsandun-

settling

^{effectonothers.Itwould bea}great

thing

^{ifwecouldraisethem up,}

change

^their

patterns,

^{butmore oftenthannotit istheir}

patterns

^{that end} up

getting

^{inside and}

changing

^{us.Thereasonis}

siinple-humans

^{are ex-}

tremely susceptible

^tothe

^moods,

^{emotions,andeven}the ways of

thinking

ofthose withwhom

they spend

their time.

The

incurably unhappy

^andunstable havea

particularly strong

^infect»

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50 LAW 10

mg

power because their characters and^{emotionsaresointense.}

They

^often

present

^{themselvesas victims,}

making

^it

^difficult,

^{atfirst, to seetheirmis-}

eries ^asself-inflicted. Before you realize the real ^nature of their

problems

you have been infected

by

^them.

Understand this: In the game of power, the

people

you associatewith

arecritical. The risk of

associating

with infeclorsisthat you will^wastevalu abletimeand energy

trying

^tofree

yourself. Through

^{akind of}

guilt by

^as-

sociation,you will also^sufferinthe eyes of others. Never underestimate the

dangers

of infection.

There^aremany kinds of infector^tobeaware

of,

^{butoneofthemost} insidious is the sufferer from chronic dissatisfaction.

Cassius,

^{the Roman}

conspirator against Julius ^Caesar,

had the discontent thatcomesfrom

deep

envy. He

simply

^{couldnotendure}the presence of anyone of

greater

^talent.

Probably

because Caesar sensed the man’s interminable soumess, he

passed

him up for the

position

^{of first}

praetorship,

^andgavethe

position

^to

Brutus instead. Cassius brooded and

broorled,

his hatred for Caesar be

coming pathological.

^Brutus

himself,

^{a. devoted}

republican,

disliked Cae- sar’s

dictatorship;

had he had the

patience

^towait,hewould have become the first^maninRome after Ca.esar‘s

death,

and could have undone the evil that the leader had

wrought.

But Cassius infected him with hisownrancor,

bending

^hisear

daily

^withtales of Caesafs evil. He

finally

^{wonBrutusover}

tothe

conspiracy.

^Itwasthe

beginning

^ofa

great tragedy.

How many^mis- fortunes couldhave been avoided hadBrutuslearnedtofear the power of infection.

There is

only

^{one solution to infection:}

quarantine.

^But

by

^{the time}

you

recognize

^the

problem

^{itisoftentoolate.A LolaMontezoveiwhelms}

you with her forceful

personality.

^Cassius

intrigues

you with his

confiding

natureand the

depth

^ofhis

feelings.

^Howcanyou

protect yourself against

such insidious viruses? The ^answer lies in

judging people

^on the effects

they

^{have on} the world andnotonthe reasons

they give

^fortheir

prob- Image:

^{A Virus.}

^Unseen,

^it

lems. Infectors^canbe

recognized by

^{themisfortune}

they

^{draw onthem-}

enters your pores ^without

selves,

their turbulent

past,

^their

long

^{lineof broken}

‘relationships,

^theirun«

warning, spreading silently

^and

stablecareers, and the_veryforce of their

character,

which sweeps you up

slowly.

Before you ^{are aware of}

and makes you^loseyour^reason.Be forewarned

by

^these

signs

^ofaninfec-

the

infection,

^itis

deep

^insideyou.

tor; learn ^{to seethe}discontentintheir eye. ^Most

important

^of

all,

^{do not} take

pity.

^{Do notenmesh}

yourself

ⁱⁿ

trying

^to

help.

^Theinfector will re

main

unchanged,

but you will be

unhinged.

Theothersideofinfectionis

equally valid,

^and

perhaps

^more

readily

understood: Thereare

people

^whoattract

happiness

^tothemselves

by

^their

good ^cheer,

^natural

buoyancy,

^and

intelligence. They

are a sourceof

plea:

sure,and you^{mustassociate}with themtoshareinthe

prospeiity they

^draw

upon themselves.

This

applies

^tomorethan

good

^{cheer and success: All}

positive quali~

ties^caninfectus.

Talley:-and

had many

strange

^and

intimidating

^traits,but

most

agreed

^{that he}

surpassed

^{allFrenchmenin}

gmciousness,

aristocratic

charm,

andwit. Indeed hecamefromoneofthe oldest noble familiesin the

country,

^and

despite

^{his beliefin}

democracy

and the French

Republic,

heretained his

courtly

^manners.His

contemporary Napoleon

^wasinmany ways the

opposite~—~a

peasant^from

Corsica,

^{tacitum and}

ungracious,

^even violent.

There wasno one

Napoleon

^{admired more than}

Talleyrand.

^{He en-}

vied his minister’s way ^with

people,

^{his wit and his}

ability

^{to charm}

women, andas besthe

could,

^he

kept Talleyrand

^around

^him, hoping

^to

soak up the culture he lacked. There^isnodoubt that

Napoleon changed

^as

his rule continued.

Many

^{of the}

rough edges

^{were smoothed}

by

^{his con-}

stantassociationwith

Talleyrand.

^.

Usethe

positive

^sideofthis emotionalosmosisto

advantage. ^If,

^forex-

ample,

you^are

miserly by

^nature,youwillnevergo

beyond

^acertain

^limit;

only

generous souls ^attain

greatness.

^Associate with the generous,

then,

and

they

^willinfect you,

opening

up

everything

^thatis

tight

and restricted inyou. If you^are

gloomy, gravitate

^{tothecheerful.}If you ^areprone^toiso

lation,

force

yourselfto

befriend the

gregarious.

Never associate with those who share your

defects——~they

will reinforce

everything

^{that holds} you back.

Only

^createassociationswith

positive

aflinities. Make this^aruleof life and_youwill benefitmorethanfrom allthe

therapy

^{inthe world.}

Authority: Recognize

^{the fortu~}

nate so that you may choose their company, and the ^1mfortu—

nate so that you may avoid them. Misfortune is

usually

^the

crime of

folly,

^andamong those who suffer from it there is no

malady

^more

contagious:

^Never

open your door to the least of

misfortunes, for,

^ifyou

do,

_many others will followin its train....

Do notdie of another’s

misery.

{Baltasar Grecian, 1601-1658)

REVERSAL

This law admits ofnoreversal. Its

application

^isuniversal. Thereis

nothing

to be

gained by associating

with those who infect you with their

misery;

there is

only

power and

good

^{fortuneto be obtained}

by associating

^with

thefortunate.

Ignore

^{this lawat}your

peril.

LAW 10 :81